Conversations for the Second Date

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The second date is a critical time in any new relationship. The first date may not have involved much talking and chances are you did not get to know each other as much as you would have liked. For the relationship to progress, there are questions that should be asked to help you figure out what type of future you may have with this person.

Find out what are the person’s interests. There may be some common ground that you both share and this can serve as a foundation to build on the relationship. You may speak on your likes and dislikes on many topics and find his/her opinion on these subjects. There are many things to talk about, just choose one and learn what the other person thinks about it. These may include questions such as what do you like to do in your spare time or do you like to watch sports.

You may also ask questions about the person’s past. When treading on this territory, exercise special care in the delivery of your inquiries. Certain discussions may bring up hurtful memories from the past. Focus on happy themes and the person’s favorite foods that he/she enjoyed eating while growing up. This will lighten the mood and allow you to become better acquainted with your date.

As you continue conversing, it is very important to raise the subject of what your partner looks for in a relationship. This will provide you with a window to your date’s soul and showcase the qualities that characterize that person.

At this point, you may delve into the personal beliefs of your date. This will give you an idea as to who you are dating. Ask the person about life changing moments and its impact on his/her life.

Having discussions about the person’s future is another ideal topic to raise during your second encounter. The fact that there is a second date indicates that the potential exists for an ongoing relationship. Their future plans will be a good way to test your compatibility. Stay away from questions such as when he/she would like to get married or how many kids he/she wants to have. Chat about each other’s dreams, goals and aspirations. You do not want to scare your date away with too many intrusive questions. Bear in mind that it is only a second date, so keep your dialogue limited to more introspective topics.

When going out with a person for the second time, such an encounter should not be primarily about interrogation. Your date should not face a barrage of questions. Instead he/she should be engaged in active, stimulating conversation that will eventually answer all your questions. The discussion should feel natural and be engaging. Look your date in the eyes when he/she is responding. This shows your interest in the dialogue. Maintaining a relaxed and balanced state of mind will grant you a successful second date. Once everything goes well, there will be many more dates in the future.

Haliyma Barrow holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Spanish and a minor in journalism from Indiana University of Pennsylvania, and a Master of Public Administration from New York University. Barrow regularly contributes articles at online writing sites such as EduBook, EzineArticles and Screen Junkies, with focus on dating related topics.

Getting Started In Online Dating: Finding a Site and Starting a Profile

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It’s normal to feel a little nervous when you first decide to turn on your computer and enter the world of online dating. However, speaking from positive experience, I can assure you there’s really no reason to worry. Online dating can be an extremely enjoyable experience and there are thousands of loving relationships out there whose happy first meetings occurred online.

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My girlfriend and I have been dating for five months and found each other online. The chemistry was there before we met in the flesh, so please be positive when you build your profile and start online dating, you need to really put your character across to entice the other person to open up and share their personality and feelings.

If you’re reading this then you may already have started an online dating profile, signed up to a site or have a strong interest in doing so. That’s good as the first step is the hardest. Be honest when filling out your profile, you want them to like the real you, and make sure you join the right site or section. If you’re looking for long term commitment then obviously a ‘quick fling’ site or section simply isn’t for you. Conduct some research, get a feel for the sites you like, write down your personal details and what it is you are looking for and start that profile.

Preparation is key when creating your profile. This will effectively be your online presence until you start chatting with other site users. Unlike a bar or nightclub, there’s no distracting noise or annoying hustle bustle, your profile can receive the full consideration of others and you can return the compliment. Choose a great picture, include the special details which make you who you are and you’ll be well on your way to online dating success.

Try to be different and stand out too. Get creative, you could write it in the form of a story (be careful with this one) or a poem (obe EXTRA careful with this one). Above all try to keep it light and interesting. Chances are, no-one wants to hear about your political or religious views just yet unless you’re on a niche dating site. Be funny and playful, remembering that someone on the other end of this has to read it. Try to make it as fun for them as possible.

Making a huge effort with your profile is vital as this is how you put yourself out there to catch the eye (and maybe the heart) of another online dater. Good luck with this first step toward finding the special person of your dreams!

This article was written by Megan Hughes from WeLoveDates online dating – for more of her writing check out the WeLoveDates blog.

How to Spend Your Valentine’s Day

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January is coming to an end and that means Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. You might think it is too early to start buying gifts or reserving seats at a local restaurant but really, it’s not.

Whether you are the type of couple who enjoys relaxing in hot tubs, hiking up mountains or curling up and watching movies, how you spend Valentine’s Day is the most important part of the holiday (not the gift).

Don’t have anything planned for this year, yet? Here are a few suggestions from women in five different types of relationships:

The Professional Couple
Chelsea & Greg: Portland, Maine

Chelsea has been dating Greg for a year. She enjoys spending time with him, but admits that their busy schedules keep them apart more than she like. As a result, all she wants to do on Valentine’s Day is find the time to be with him.

“Greg has to work until 11:30 at night on Valentine’s Day, so I’m hoping to go to breakfast the day of,” she says. “I’m all about the fact that the thought counts, so if he made me dinner that would be perfect too!”

A College Romance
Ally & Sean: Manchester, New Hampshire

Ally met Sean in college and finds their relationship to be relaxed and “mushiness-free,” even on the most romantic day of the year.

“Since Valentine’s Day is on a Monday and we both have class, I don’t mind if we do something the weekend before or after,” Ally says. “I like to keep it simple on Valentine’s Day. A card and Reese’s Pieces would be ideal. I am hoping it’s going to be a dinner.”

The Old-Timers
George & Shelly: Denver, Colorado

George and Shelly have been married for thirty-six years. At this point in their relationship, it’s hard to come up with new gifts to buy and new places to go out for dinner.

“I don’t think there is anything George can surprise me with,” Shelly says. “I really just feel so lucky to have him around me that if we were just to light some candles and jump in our small hot tub I would be happy with that,” she laughs.

The Long-Distance Relationship
Melanie & Joey: New York City, New York

Sometimes the phone just isn’t good enough. No matter how cheap or well-equipped your telephone system is, saying “I love you” should be done in person. That is how Melanie feels, who has been dating her boyfriend Joey for five years. This year, the couple is forced to spend Valentine’s Day apart.

“I’m studying abroad in London this semester, and he is still at school in New York,” Melanie explains. “I’m hoping that he is going to surprise me and just show up on Valentine’s Day, but I understand that is a lot to ask.”

Are you in a similar situation? Well, cancel the Skype date and don’t ship your gift via Fed Ex. Instead, book the next flight, train or bus to visit your sweetheart.

Adventurous Couple
Lindsay & Matthew: Washington DC

World traveler and dedicated hiker, Lindsay spends every Valentine’s Day with her fiancé – exploring a different part of the world. This year, however, Lindsay did not schedule a trip and is curious as to what Matthew has planned.

“Valentine’s Day this year was too close to my best friend’s wedding, so we didn’t want to travel back-to-back weekends,” Lindsay explains. “I’m really hoping we follow through with our tradition and maybe hike in Shenandoah National Park nearby. Exploring new things together is really the best way to keep the ‘spark’ going,” Lindsay adds.

According to these women, spending the day together is the most important part to get right, not the gift. So there is no need to panic over what to buy your loved one; save that for their birthday.

Sylvia Rosen is an online writer with a background in newspaper journalism. She enjoys writing about dating, relationships and healthy lifestyles.

What You Need To Know When You Try To Bring Back The Love Of Your Life

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So your relationship is over – What do you do now? We have all been there. The sleepless nights, thinking of the one you still love. Wondering if things would be different if only you had said or done something else. Just remember that whatever has happened between you and your lover, it is never too late.

Here are a few ideas on how to bring back the love of your life:

Forcing your ideals on them will not bring your partner back. Instead of dreaming about how your relationship was – be realistic. All relationships have their issues, and if your loved one is no longer with you, then there is a specific reason for this that is standing between you and them. You must remove this obstacle between you both, by accepting them and the choices that they have made.

Be reassuring to them, that you accept their choices even if you don’t necessarily think that the choice is the correct one for you both. Let them know that after all that you have shared, you will still support them and that you wish them to be happy no matter what. Breaking off from them and creating distance at this crucial point is the worst thing that you can do and should be avoided. Do you utmost to maintain friendship with them. See the relationship as going through yet another rough patch – This one is a tough one to deal with, but you are still a team in some sense. Let your continued friendship guide you through the new unknown that lies ahead. Just because you are no longer officially together, does not mean that all ties should be cut.

Patience at this point becomes the name of the game. Provided you maintain a good friendship and do not force your wishes, there is a good chance that you can resolve the obstacle that stands in your way, and in doing so bring back the love of your life. This may take weeks, months or even years, so be prepared for this. If you truly believe in them, then the reward of maintaining the friendship should at least be worth the time. This also gives you a good opportunity to focus more on yourself, and address any aspects of your character that you wish to improve. Times like these don’t come often, so make good use of the chance to become a new and better you.

Christian Singles Online Advice

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If you are a Christian looking for a significant other with whom you can share your life, you might want to try online dating. There are many Christian singles online, looking for love and companionship. In the past when couples said they met online, they were questioned and their story was unique. With today’s technology, it is becoming more acceptable and much easier to find love online.

Christian singles online may want to go to dating websites that are designed just for Christians. These websites try to line couples up that not only have similar hobbies or personalities, but also have similar beliefs. If your faith is important to you, you will want someone who shares your morals.

Many of these dating websites offer free trials. You can join for free and test things out. If you do not like what you see as you browse around the site and try it out, you can cancel before you are charged. Some of the sites say that if you do not like your matches, you will get your money back. There are plenty of options for Christian singles online.

If you do not want to have to pay to find love, you can join some of the other dating sites. As long as you mention that you are a Christian, and are looking for another Christian, you should be able to find people with your values. You may get some strange comments on occasion, but if you are not easily offended, you can find people with your morals just about anywhere on the internet.

With any kind of blind dating, you will want to proceed with care. Talk with the person you meet over email for awhile before you exchange any information. If you decide to meet in person, take someone along with you or meet in a public location. You can never know for sure who you are talking to when you chat on the computer.

Online Dating Tips and Advice

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There are so many great online dating tips that will improve your success rate of meeting people online. That’s mainly because it can be an overwhelming and complicated process, especially if you are new to it. Profile writing, sending messages, choosing a picture, and carrying conversation are important aspects of online dating.

Choosing the right site is important to your success. If you are very busy and don’t have the time to put into finding potential dates and matches, you may be interested in choosing one of the algorithm-based dating sites such as eHarmony. If you are adventurous and have the time you can opt for a free site, such as Plentyoffish.

Now that you have your site chosen, here are a number of online dating tips. Firstly, the golden rule of online dating is to make contact. If you don’t introduce yourself to people you’ll never get to go on a date.  Although challenging, over coming your fear of making that initial contact will bring you a long way in the world of online dating. Another great tip is in choosing the right profile picture. You don’t want anything inappropriate but at the same time you want to make sure that you are identifiable and someone can see it. Also, keep conversation short. After your initial contact, you may send a couple messages back and forth to ask questions and build interest but don’t keep it lingering. Once you have decided that the person you’re talking to is a potential date, try to seal the deal. This is usually done by either asking for a date or asking for a phone number. You can make up an excuse saying you are busy and won’t be on and ask for their number. Remember throughout your entire online dating experience – always be respectful of everyone you speak with.

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