The Top 5 Ways to Kill Someone’s Interest in You

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I remember a time when this guy was interested in me. He was doing everything he could to make sure I noticed that he was in to me, and I was doing everything I could to make sure he didn’t know I was interested in him too. Of course soon he gave up on me and found someone else. That’s a mistake I never made again!

If you are single and looking then you probably don’t want to ruin your chances with someone who is interested in you – especially if you are interested in them back. By avoiding doing all the wrong things that drive them away, you will naturally do all the right things that keep them attracted to you, so here are the top 5 ways to kill someone’s interest in you.

1. Pretending You Are Not Interested in Them

Many people are advised to play this game with someone that is interested in them. It’s supposed to be a way to make them even more interested in you – kind of like a cat and mouse situation where they have to chase you. For the most part it doesn’t work.

Normally the person doing the ‘chasing’ becomes unsure of whether or not the ‘chasee’ is really interested in them. Soon the fear of rejection causes them to lose interest in the chase and move onto someone else. And even if they are not scared of you rejecting them, they will probably just grow tired of your coy attitude with them and give up.

2. Trying to Make Them Jealous

This is another game that many people are advised to play. It’s supposed to make the person attracted to you grow even more attracted to you due to jealousy. It’s a dangerous game, and instead of winning at the game, most of the time your admirer will quickly grow angry that you chose someone else instead of them. This will cause them to move on to someone who actually shows interest in them, and them only.

3. Showing Your Mean Side

If your admirer is attracted to you it’s probably because of one or more admirable traits. But nothing can overshadow those traits like a fit of rage and anger can.

Not many people will be attracted to you because you are mean or cold in nature. Even a glimpse of that side of you may be enough to turn someone off, so remember to always show your best side out in public – and try to always live your best side. You will be happier and you will keep your admirers around!

4. Complaining

A person can only listen to so much complaining from someone before they completely cut that person off from their ‘I’m attracted to this person’ list. Complaining makes you look crabby, unreasonable, and difficult to deal with. Who would want to get into a relationship with someone like that?

To thwart complaining start taking action! Don’t waste time complaining but instead fix the issues that would cause you to complain in the first place. It’s much more admirable. Plus you will gain attraction by your admirer if you are a go-doer who gets things done.

5. Criticizing Them The Wrong Way

Chances are the person interested in you is involved in your life some way. If you are interacting on a conversational level then you want to make sure that you don’t bruise their ego in some way or make them feel as though you believe you are superior to them.

If you point the finger at someone and tell them they are doing something wrong in a negative way then you will instantly lose their respect and gain their annoyance. You may think that you are being helpful when you tell them how to do something, but you may actually cause them to think that you are telling them that they are wrong and you are right. Anyone attracted to you will be turned off immediately!

Of course there are times that they will be doing something wrong and you may need to direct them in a different direction. Instead of pointing the finger or blaming them in a direct way, use the indirect method with constructive criticism. This means giving them positive feedback followed by constructive criticism.

For instance, if you are critiquing an office memo they wrote then you may want say something like ‘You really know what you are doing when it comes to getting your point across!’ followed by constructive criticism such as ‘maybe you can point out even more great things about not eating other people’s lunches.’ This sounds a lot better than saying ‘You need to add more detail to that list!’

While these are the top 5 ways to kill someone’s interest in you, there are many ways to lose the interest of an admirer. Remember that keeping their interest boils down to being the real you, letting them see you in a positive light, and making them feel as though you value them. Remember those tips and your admirers will always admirer you.

About The Author:

Bellaisa writes for the Relationship Circle, a blog with relationship advice on everything from common relationship issues to how to find love.

How to Play Hard to Get

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Playing hard to get may seem like a lost art in today’s dating world where it is accepted as normal for women to take the reigns in intimate relationships. This development has seen women in turn pursuing men as opposed to being pursued by men. This cultural shift has led to what many see as a phenomenon. Some women even propose marriage to their partners. Nevertheless studies assert that men are natural born hunters and so they enjoy a good game of pursuing a woman he has deemed worthy of his affections. As such, while one is not suggesting that women have to be prudish and hard heartened, a well played deck of hard to get cards can lead to a man become even more enthralled with the woman he desires to possess. Playing hard to get can add fire and fun to the dating scene and making it a little more interesting. Putting hard to get techniques into practices however is not as unattainable as some may think. It may simply be a matter of reading well into the dating game, having a basic understanding of the psychology of men and holding back a little. The most important part of a successful game of hard to get is that of mystery. Here is how to capture some of that mystery.

  1. The first step in playing hard to get is showing an interest in the other person without appearing to be too eager. This can be done by laughing at jokes, asking and responding to open ended questions and showing positive body language signals such as looking the person in the face/eyes when listening or responding during conversation. The trick here is to appear interested and polite without appearing desperate or needy.
  2. Do not reveal too much about oneself. One trick to playing hard to get, is to not give off enough information about oneself. This is especially true in the early stages of the dating game. Be receptive but remember there will be plenty of time to get to learn more about each other. As such everything, such as the most personal and intimate details of one’s life need not be mentioned.
  3. Keep an active schedule. Remember even though one is dating a person of interest, one does not need to rearrange one’s entire schedule in the hopes that spending time with this new prospect will fill it. Continue to enjoy the activities that one previously did as this will make one appear more purposeful in one’s own life. This will allow the other person to really endeavour to get and keep one’s attention. This will give the impression that one has a life of one’s own and as such one’s attention is hard to come by.

Tips and Warnings

  • Although playing hard to get is generally used by women to attract men. Both men and women can put the principles of playing hard to get into practice. However, if both persons are playing hard to get, it can become a frustrating situation where both parties seem to be getting nowhere.
  • It is assumed before playing hard to get that the persons involved are at the very least dating and are interested in further intimacy.
  • There is a fine line between being hard to get and being seen as unavailable. Persons should tread this line very carefully so as to not cause the other party to lose interest in the prospects of furthering relations.

Leslie O’Neill writes Dating Tips for Guys and Dating Tips for Girls.

What Are They Really Saying? Reading Body Language on the First Date

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A couple on their first date have an infinite number of questions running through their heads: Does he like me? Am I making a good impression on her? Does he find me attractive? Although couples can’t read each others’ minds, they can take hints from their date’s body language.

licking lipsRaised Eyebrows – If your date raises their eyebrows, it’s a sign they find you engaging. People raise their eyebrows as a subconscious attempt to take in as much as possible of what’s right before them. This expression is often a quick reflex.

Licking Lips – People commonly lick their lips when they see something they desire. If your date is licking their lips while staring at you, it’s a good possibility that you’re at the top of their craving list.

Palms Faceup – Extending your hands palms-up shows that you desire a closer connection to the person you are talking to. A person who extends their hands to you with palms faceup is feeling open and submissive.

Tight-Lipped Smile – When a person smiles at you with their upper lip tight and their teeth barely peeking through, this shows that, though they may enjoy your company, there is no romantic interest.

Attractive blonde portraitHalf Smile or Sneer – A person who is half smiling at you, or even flat-out sneering, is not being sincere with you. They may only expect one thing from the first date, and you can expect to never hear from them again after they get what they want.

Toes Pointed Inward – If your date is standing or sitting with their toes pointed inward, this indicates they are interested but feeling shy and insecure. Make sure your body language is open but not overbearing, showing that you are mutually interested but won’t overpower them.

Head Titled – A tilt of the head signals your date that you want them to come closer, literally and figuratively.

Crossed Arms – Although some people do this when feeling awkward or insecure, this can also be a sign that a person is uninterested and trying to close themselves off from their date. They may feel you are coming on too strong.

Intense Eye Contact – Eye contact is usually a good thing, but if your date won’t break eye contact and stares intensely, they may be attempting to seduce you.

Face Touch – If your date touches their face, it’s a sign you have their attention. They are trying to listen to you and wish they could be touching your face as well.

touching hairHand Gestures – A person who talks with their hands is usually a good communicator. The larger the gestures, the more they are attempting to signal their interest in you.

Legs Apart – Sitting or standing with your legs apart is a primal instinct showing that you are hot for someone. This is a complicated signal, as some people do this while genuinely interested, and others when they have an over-inflated ego.

Remember that body language is a subconscious language. Some people may unintentionally stand, sit, or gesture in a negative way. Use body language as a way of taking hints, but don’t give up completely if you receive both positive and negative vibes from your date. They may simply need to feel more secure before they open up with their body language.

 

This was a guest post by John from Body Language training program the Body Language Guide. Download our latest series of videos to learn more about attraction body langauge to help with your dating!

Conversations for the Second Date

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The second date is a critical time in any new relationship. The first date may not have involved much talking and chances are you did not get to know each other as much as you would have liked. For the relationship to progress, there are questions that should be asked to help you figure out what type of future you may have with this person.

Find out what are the person’s interests. There may be some common ground that you both share and this can serve as a foundation to build on the relationship. You may speak on your likes and dislikes on many topics and find his/her opinion on these subjects. There are many things to talk about, just choose one and learn what the other person thinks about it. These may include questions such as what do you like to do in your spare time or do you like to watch sports.

You may also ask questions about the person’s past. When treading on this territory, exercise special care in the delivery of your inquiries. Certain discussions may bring up hurtful memories from the past. Focus on happy themes and the person’s favorite foods that he/she enjoyed eating while growing up. This will lighten the mood and allow you to become better acquainted with your date.

As you continue conversing, it is very important to raise the subject of what your partner looks for in a relationship. This will provide you with a window to your date’s soul and showcase the qualities that characterize that person.

At this point, you may delve into the personal beliefs of your date. This will give you an idea as to who you are dating. Ask the person about life changing moments and its impact on his/her life.

Having discussions about the person’s future is another ideal topic to raise during your second encounter. The fact that there is a second date indicates that the potential exists for an ongoing relationship. Their future plans will be a good way to test your compatibility. Stay away from questions such as when he/she would like to get married or how many kids he/she wants to have. Chat about each other’s dreams, goals and aspirations. You do not want to scare your date away with too many intrusive questions. Bear in mind that it is only a second date, so keep your dialogue limited to more introspective topics.

When going out with a person for the second time, such an encounter should not be primarily about interrogation. Your date should not face a barrage of questions. Instead he/she should be engaged in active, stimulating conversation that will eventually answer all your questions. The discussion should feel natural and be engaging. Look your date in the eyes when he/she is responding. This shows your interest in the dialogue. Maintaining a relaxed and balanced state of mind will grant you a successful second date. Once everything goes well, there will be many more dates in the future.

Haliyma Barrow holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Spanish and a minor in journalism from Indiana University of Pennsylvania, and a Master of Public Administration from New York University. Barrow regularly contributes articles at online writing sites such as EduBook, EzineArticles and Screen Junkies, with focus on dating related topics.

Finding Partners in China through Chinese Dating Sites

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There are countless Chinese singles looking to find potential partners through on-line dating websites in China. Chinese girls and women are searching through on-line dating services daily. The Internet is undoubtedly a boom for men and women to interact with the each other and have the chance to find their life partner. There are many Chinese girls who are young and single, and can’t find their desired companions in China and are searching in other places..

Men in Western countries search Chinese dating sites for a Chinese wife to find their perfect match for a dream wedding. For the purpose of looking for single women Chinese on-line dating sites are excellent. There are on-line dating services free of cost in China so there are many ladies using them. You can choose one of these Chinese dating sites based on their needs or your needs, it is good to check out some free on-line dating sites in China before hand to get the feel of things and some potential matches . Before contacting your matches you will need to register as a user, and pay a fee, then you can start to contact other singles in China gradually begin a relationship with them via email or via chat. There will be a number of dating internet sites which involve a minor amount to be able to get in touch with members and worth searching around for. Whether you opt for a paid service or a free Chinese dating is all about you, but it is true that these on-line sites have been proven in China to find your ideal partner.

Most Chinese on-line dating services, you may set up a account and a user profile in no time. Then you can create a personal profile with your picture to be posted. Take your time with this as it should ensure that your profile is attractive to the Chinese women who visit the site. Being unique is important and your photo is very important and worth to even get a professional photo taken for it. After creating a personal ad, you should be all set up on the website for searching and browsing the profiles. After contacting them by sending an email to that person, if they are interested, you should expect a positive response and contact back. But don’t worry if you don’t hear back for what ever reason just keep sending out more mails. The next step is the final and inevitable meeting of the person you are interested in, and then decide if this person is really destined to be your partner. The Chinese on-line dating sites, you can search for your ideal partner are great and then when things click, you can take the relationship to the next level. They are great to ensure that you interact with like-minded people to find a partner. Everything you need to find a Chinese partner is on a Chinese Dating Worldwide on-line site in China, so register and I wish you every success in finding an ideal partner in China.

Steps to Online Dating Success

Steps to Online Dating Success

Online Dating remains one of the most popular activities online today. Many couples meet and eventually get married through contact they made online. And the risks are minimal if you avoid giving away too much information before you are sure the person you are chatting with is safe and has the right intentions.

Realize that the right person will most likely not be the first person you find online and you might need to get to know many people before you find someone you are truly comfortable with and want to date. Here are the steps to successful online dating.

1. Decide ahead of time what kind of relationship you are looking for. If you are looking for a long term relationship, you will want to register with certain dating sites. Maybe a niche dating site fits your personality. Possibly you just want to chat and have fun, then social networks will work best for you.

2. Write a good online profile. Be honest, original, and interesting. Add a photo to your profile that is current, has good lightening, and doesn’t include other people.

3. Share what is important to you including hobbies, interests, and what you except in a relationship. A sense of humor can be helpful along with creativity. You want to stand out among the many profiles registered.

4. Begin to browse and search the profiles online. Search for qualities that are necessary in someone you date and save the best ones that you find. Work on your first emails before you send them but also be spontaneous at times. After your first contact, instant message those that are online at the same time as you are. Seem interested but not desperate.

5. Winks and virtual kisses, etc. are often good if you are looking for casual encounters but should be reconsidered if you are looking for something a bit more serious.

6. After a long series of online contact, if you feel comfortable and trust the person you have found, pass along some personal information like an email address or a phone number. Don’t give out the information too fast as you could find yourself in an odd situation with someone more interested in direct contact than you desire.

7. If the initial contact outside the online website goes well, consider a meeting in a public area. Drive yourself and think of doing some background checks on the person prior to meeting. There are paid and free services that provide information about a person that you will want to know prior to getting more serious.

Hopefully these tips have been helpful in your online dating engagements. Take your time and have fun. Online dating can be a great addition to your dating pursuits.

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