Teach Me To Dance : How to pull a girl on the dance floor
When the music is blaring and there’s lots and lots of competition, how do you get the killer edge? You’re not the sharpest tool in the shed, neither the best looking person there. You got that really good dancer showing his moves and it really makes you look silly with your little “feet dance”… so how do you get that killer blonde on the dance floor, that has an army of lads and girl friends around her?
This is by far one of the hardest pulling situations, and takes either really good looks, really good luck, or perfect execution of this method, I’m calling: “Teach Me To Dance”
You cannot be scared of rejection, and you can not be scared of what anyone will think of you, but this method has a surprisingly good success rate.
So here goes, step one…
use your friends.
How exactly can you use your friends? Well just nudge them to get on the dance floor with you. If you already are, gather them to get a bit closer. Point out the girls, and notably even your girl (the one you’re after). Now if you’re friends are total wreck heads like mine are, they’ll be drooling all over the girls. Please refrain from doing this yourself. It can be tempting when you’re drunk to act like this, but if you keep your cool and carry on with your little feet dance you’ll reap the rewards later. Don’t worry about dancing any good like those “spice boys”, just have a laugh. In fact, take the piss out of yourself dancing.
Don’t get me wrong have the giggle with your friends, look as if you’re enjoying yourself. If you’re close enough now, you can move onto step 2…
the eye catcher.
The Eye Catcher is a sort of art. You need to catch her eye without staring. So this requires, carrying on with your feet dance, having the laugh with the boys but moving your eyes through the area which the girl is in. Keep doing it, eventually you will catch her eye. This is where you normally would do your goofy smile. Leave that out. Instead lock eyes, for a good few seconds, then look away and carry on having the laugh with mates. You can do this a few times, make it a tiny bit obvious you’re interested.
Now you have a couple of options. She knows you exist, but now what. That depends on the situation. If she is in a small group of friends approaching her will be uneasy for her as she will not want to leave her friends (yes, girls care about their friends), but is she is in a big group of friends, and some of her friends are dancing with lads, then that’s good. Now the next part is something that’s tried and tested and it working will entirely depend on the girls personality. But I’ve had girls tell me to piss off, and it’s still worked out where I got the number. This is just an opener, it’s as good as any.
Go up to the girl and say (while still doing your little feet dance): “Could you teach me how to dance, I really can’t and feel a bit stupid!”
Now the girl will laugh, and feel a little bit sorry for you, and might even think you’re a bit cute. Her womanly motherly instincts will come into play and she will be curious. In which case this starts a conversation… you may well be in.
She may on the other hand, tell you to piss off. Now you’ve either got a feisty one (sometimes the best ones) or a downright mardy bitch. Either way you don’t have much to lose now. Say things like “I was willing to pay for your services, gosh…” or “I was taking the piss anyway, I’m a way better dancer than you”.
Try twice with remarks like that, use your initiative, and you may just get a conversation starter. Make her laugh and you’re in.
She may laugh it off and carry on dancing, but now you have let yourself in, dance by her.
Once you’ve started a conversation one way or another, and began to dance with her, now you can make a bit of an intimate move. The conversation in the loud club will not have gone that far I’m sure. You may have got as far as “what’s your name?” and “where you from?”, but you need to move it back on to dancing.
The next step is… “So are you going to teach me or what, I’m really crap look!” (do a little crap dancing move and get a giggle)…
Involve her friends a little bit by saying to them “I’m trying to get her to teach me how to dance”.
Everyone knows this isn’t the reason why you’re dancing with her… but everyone accepts it as ‘the hook’. It’s the theme of the conversation. Nothing’s lost, and nothings serious if we cover it up with this ‘theme’. It’s like… she hasn’t rejected you, she just didn’t want to teach you how to dance 🙂
Now you must be getting a little bit more comfortable. NO other lads on the dance floor are doing this method, they all either try to dance really cool, or just dribble all over the girls, slap their arses or try and get behind them and dance. Don’t get me wrong this situation sometimes works, but you make a right fool out of yourself, and requires both parties to be extremely drunk. It’s throwing shit against the wall and hoping it sticks. The “teach me to dance” method is more calculated and has a little less risk.
The next step is a biggie but I’m sure by now you can do this bit.
“I’ll just dance behind you, it will make me look good”
Don’t ask. Be dominating. Now make your approach… one of two things will happen obviously. Either she will push you away, or she will accept you dancing with her.
If she pushes you away, it’s not the end of world. Have a giggle. Remember at the end of the day you weren’t trying to pull her. You were trying to get her to teach you how to dance 🙂
Stay with it, and carry on dancing near them making the odd remark, and maybe just maybe you can hook up off the dance floor and carry on with the theme. “So when are you going to teach me how to dance then!?”… “Can I get your number we need to arrange these dancing lessons”.
If you succeeded in getting her to dance with you, you now have to be Mr cool. Don’t go diving in to kiss her, unless it seems that type of situation. Dance with her for a song… don’t be clingy, then tell her you’ll meet her off the dance floor and buy her a drink for being such a good dance teacher. If she is in a situation where you can get her number or email or face book do so, this is normally when they are not so into the song.
So there you have it, a method to pull on the dance floor.
Use it wisely.
Jonathon X is a dating expert and is the creative director at EasyFindADate.com who specialise in free dating.