Quite honestly confidence and not cockiness will work for you every single time.
If you are in a bar and you want to stand out amidst all of the guys jockeying for the hottest piece of ass, do not act like an idiot. Do not scream, yell, or push, etc. with your buddies. I promise we are laughing at you, not with you.
Those who truly stand out and really get a girl’s attention do not have to try very hard. They stick out effortlessly and are usually more reserved, content in their company (for appearance sake) and act genuinely surprised when approached, that is if they get to you first (girls enjoy a challenge too).
There is nothing “natural” about having to act that way. It should be easy and comfortable and not look staged. Nothing is a bigger turn off than a guy in a bar trying to act more important than he is. You know the guy wearing blacked out glasses and we are in a dark club. (You know who they are, they look ridiculous – the opposite of cool).
My advice: don’t try so hard. Just be you. There is nothing more attractive than that. Because let’s face it guys, eventually the lights come on in the club, bedroom, etc. and if nobody is home you can get the hell out.
Again to clarify. Don’t try so hard and pretend to be something you’re not. If you look at the true “naturals” out there. They are relaxed and comfortable in their own skin. Look at their mannerisms. Look at the way they stand. It’s all laid back. If you notice someone who is not getting women, look at the same factors. They usually have their arms crossed and are always fidgeting. In order to find your true relaxed self, you need to focus on liking yourself and being happy with you.
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