The Top 5 Ways to Kill Someone’s Interest in You

I remember a time when this guy was interested in me. He was doing everything he could to make sure I noticed that he was in to me, and I was doing everything I could to make sure he didn’t know I was interested in him too. Of course soon he gave up on me and found someone else. That’s a mistake I never made again!

If you are single and looking then you probably don’t want to ruin your chances with someone who is interested in you – especially if you are interested in them back. By avoiding doing all the wrong things that drive them away, you will naturally do all the right things that keep them attracted to you, so here are the top 5 ways to kill someone’s interest in you.

1. Pretending You Are Not Interested in Them

Many people are advised to play this game with someone that is interested in them. It’s supposed to be a way to make them even more interested in you – kind of like a cat and mouse situation where they have to chase you. For the most part it doesn’t work.

Normally the person doing the ‘chasing’ becomes unsure of whether or not the ‘chasee’ is really interested in them. Soon the fear of rejection causes them to lose interest in the chase and move onto someone else. And even if they are not scared of you rejecting them, they will probably just grow tired of your coy attitude with them and give up.

2. Trying to Make Them Jealous

This is another game that many people are advised to play. It’s supposed to make the person attracted to you grow even more attracted to you due to jealousy. It’s a dangerous game, and instead of winning at the game, most of the time your admirer will quickly grow angry that you chose someone else instead of them. This will cause them to move on to someone who actually shows interest in them, and them only.

3. Showing Your Mean Side

If your admirer is attracted to you it’s probably because of one or more admirable traits. But nothing can overshadow those traits like a fit of rage and anger can.

Not many people will be attracted to you because you are mean or cold in nature. Even a glimpse of that side of you may be enough to turn someone off, so remember to always show your best side out in public – and try to always live your best side. You will be happier and you will keep your admirers around!

4. Complaining

A person can only listen to so much complaining from someone before they completely cut that person off from their ‘I’m attracted to this person’ list. Complaining makes you look crabby, unreasonable, and difficult to deal with. Who would want to get into a relationship with someone like that?

To thwart complaining start taking action! Don’t waste time complaining but instead fix the issues that would cause you to complain in the first place. It’s much more admirable. Plus you will gain attraction by your admirer if you are a go-doer who gets things done.

5. Criticizing Them The Wrong Way

Chances are the person interested in you is involved in your life some way. If you are interacting on a conversational level then you want to make sure that you don’t bruise their ego in some way or make them feel as though you believe you are superior to them.

If you point the finger at someone and tell them they are doing something wrong in a negative way then you will instantly lose their respect and gain their annoyance. You may think that you are being helpful when you tell them how to do something, but you may actually cause them to think that you are telling them that they are wrong and you are right. Anyone attracted to you will be turned off immediately!

Of course there are times that they will be doing something wrong and you may need to direct them in a different direction. Instead of pointing the finger or blaming them in a direct way, use the indirect method with constructive criticism. This means giving them positive feedback followed by constructive criticism.

For instance, if you are critiquing an office memo they wrote then you may want say something like ‘You really know what you are doing when it comes to getting your point across!’ followed by constructive criticism such as ‘maybe you can point out even more great things about not eating other people’s lunches.’ This sounds a lot better than saying ‘You need to add more detail to that list!’

While these are the top 5 ways to kill someone’s interest in you, there are many ways to lose the interest of an admirer. Remember that keeping their interest boils down to being the real you, letting them see you in a positive light, and making them feel as though you value them. Remember those tips and your admirers will always admirer you.

About The Author:

Bellaisa writes for the Relationship Circle, a blog with relationship advice on everything from common relationship issues to how to find love.

What You Need To Know When You Try To Bring Back The Love Of Your Life

So your relationship is over – What do you do now? We have all been there. The sleepless nights, thinking of the one you still love. Wondering if things would be different if only you had said or done something else. Just remember that whatever has happened between you and your lover, it is never too late.

Here are a few ideas on how to bring back the love of your life:

Forcing your ideals on them will not bring your partner back. Instead of dreaming about how your relationship was – be realistic. All relationships have their issues, and if your loved one is no longer with you, then there is a specific reason for this that is standing between you and them. You must remove this obstacle between you both, by accepting them and the choices that they have made.

Be reassuring to them, that you accept their choices even if you don’t necessarily think that the choice is the correct one for you both. Let them know that after all that you have shared, you will still support them and that you wish them to be happy no matter what. Breaking off from them and creating distance at this crucial point is the worst thing that you can do and should be avoided. Do you utmost to maintain friendship with them. See the relationship as going through yet another rough patch – This one is a tough one to deal with, but you are still a team in some sense. Let your continued friendship guide you through the new unknown that lies ahead. Just because you are no longer officially together, does not mean that all ties should be cut.

Patience at this point becomes the name of the game. Provided you maintain a good friendship and do not force your wishes, there is a good chance that you can resolve the obstacle that stands in your way, and in doing so bring back the love of your life. This may take weeks, months or even years, so be prepared for this. If you truly believe in them, then the reward of maintaining the friendship should at least be worth the time. This also gives you a good opportunity to focus more on yourself, and address any aspects of your character that you wish to improve. Times like these don’t come often, so make good use of the chance to become a new and better you.

7 Tips For Putting Together A Winning Valentine’s Day Card

Have you visited the greeting card section in your local Walmart or food store lately? Chances are if you have, you may have noticed how over whelming it can be to pick out a greeting card. There are so many different genres of cards now ranging from the most outrageous or obscene to the romantic and emotional cards, there’s even cards that sing and record voices!

Well its that time of the year again where roses are red and violets are blue, some poems rhyme others don’t. Don’t be one of those people that says, “I hate this holiday, it just makes me feel that much more single”. This is the holiday where life gives you lemons…an excuse to find that special someone or a reason to ask the girl of your dreams out on a date.

During this time of year, a way to a woman’s heart is romance. I know guys, this can be a word with many meanings but for the next few weeks, its all about flowers and romantic words, oh and chocolate, lots of it! The easy part is the chocolate and flowers, most of us can get away with just those two things however if your looking to go above and beyond this year, tell her how you really feel and make sure to get those reservations to her favorite restaurant.

Romantic cards can be quite a challenge for some people, but the beauty of this holiday is, many of those cards on the shelves know just how you feel! If your significant other means that much to you, try writing your own card full of love. The internet provides you with a large selection of DIY valentines day card templates. If you need a push in the right direction here are some tips to get you started.

  • Use sentimental rubber stamps such as “I Love You” or “Be Mine”. You can find them in any craft store.
  • Write or print a few suitable words on your valentine’s card. These are a great alternative to rubber stamps. (Men leave the hand writing to the women, find a suitable font in Word and go from there, its for the best!)
  • If you going to hand write, use a quality pen.
  • Write slowly and evenly.
  • Write naturally.
  • If your a poet at heart, then you should definitely include some romantic words that rhyme. (women eat that stuff up!)
  • As cheesy as this may sound, use lyrics from a song. Preferably a song your significant other doesn’t know, but if you must, say something like, Michael Buble says it best, “You know your some kind of wonderful…”.

There you have it, a bunch of ways to have a successful and romantic Valentines Day. Indulge yourself in that ridiculously large heart filled with your favorite chocolates. Go make lemonade!

Pat Shebby’s friends often refer to him as the “Love Doctor” because of his expertise and creativity when it comes to matters of the heart. He is also a big fan of custom gifts like a unique printable calendar.