Ladies: Is Love Really All You Need To Get Hitched?

Single Parent Dating

Come on, I know what you’re thinking. Most romantics would agree with the title. All you need is love. A lot of women believe this is the only reason to get married. It’s so easy to say, but when it comes down to it, is it really true? After all, times are different now. Back then marriage was about stability, a promised future, and certain social status. Today, you can marry any man you want and all you need is two witnesses and to be happy with his, um, assets. Before you make the plunge, consider the following points:

• The first thing we have to check out is how the two of you interact during a problem or crisis. Can the two of you really handle one another or do you find someone pulling more weight than the other? I’ve seen couples go both ways, but no matter what reactions they had there was a hidden balance. Balance being they were able to work with each other, not against one another. A husband should be like a secretary, if you call in for a week they should be able to take over right away and pick up your slack with ease. Teamwork is important. You can’t be a one woman team, if you want to be, go ahead and enjoy being single until you’re ready.

• A lot of people don’t admit it, but having security really is a huge part in a couple’s relationship. You might be finishing up a college degree while he stays at home and plays Call of Duty on his Xbox. Don’t get me wrong, a man having gaming habits is a nice way to receive some space, but if this is all he does, is it worth it? A man has to have a job or some kind of dream of becoming more. You know the women that stay with the starving and struggling artist, it’s because they truly believe he will make it big someday, no matter how long it takes. If that’s not love, I don’t know what is. Bottom line, ensure there is ambition within him or else you’ll be wondering why you never questioned it sooner.

• The biggest and most common question is the trust you hold within each other. You can love someone till the end of time, but if you’re torturing yourself day after day wondering if he’s seeing someone on the side based on his past, it’s not going to work. I say this because I care. Women are sympathetic, they want to be the ones to change their ways, but we have to accept the fact that sometimes it is not an option. Do not, I repeat, do not torture yourself if you question his intentions. You do not want to waste your time with someone who doesn’t care about you. By the time it’s over, you could have been happily married to some other guy for years. Don’t do it. Follow and trust your instincts on this.

Don’t get me wrong, loving someone is half the battle, but it cannot be the only thing you contemplate before making a life-long commitment. If you’ve honestly considered all of these ideas and still have some positive thoughts about your man, you have my personal blessing to get hitched. If later down the road you realize you’d made a horrible mistake, no big deal. You can always get your ring appraised and find out how much your diamond worth is and resell it.

Fran Delaney writes on love, relationships and marriage from her hometown of Los Angeles, CA.

How to Exceed Expectations on a First Date

Christian Singles

It’s finally the day of the first date that you’ve been looking forward to for so long. Your hands are sweating, hearts pounding and you’re desperately thinking of what you are going to say, we have all been there at some point. If you are reading this then the chances are that you are feeling a little nervous or unsure about what he or she is going to think of you and so here are some top tips to help ensure that the date goes well and most importantly that you get that all important second date.

1. Calm Those Nerves

The most important thing is for you to be confident and relaxed when you are on the date and so in order for you to relax tell yourself that it is fine to be nervous, it’s natural. Don’t get too focused on the nerves and try instead to turn those butterflies into excitement. The chances are that your date is just as nervous as you are and the anticipation is always the worst part. Try not to memorise what you want to say or questions to ask as this will probably make you feel more nervous, just trust that the adrenaline will take over and that you will naturally create conversation when you meet. After 5 minutes or so the initial nerves should be gone and you will be free to enjoy the date.

2. Find Something Fun to Do

If you meet up with your date without a plan in mind of what you want to do then things can get awkward as you both feel unsure about an activity to suggest. You will most likely be texting or emailing your date for a while before you arranged the date and so you should arrange where you are going to go before hand. Choose something that is fun and allows you to get to know your date a bit better. Going to the cinema on the first date is often a mistake as you don’t get the chance to have a proper conversation with them. Go for a meal or a drink instead which will let you talk while you enjoy your meal or drinks which will be a welcome distraction and will take the pressure off you having to talk constantly. Mini golf, bowling or a trip to an amusement park are all good ways to break the ice and to have fun.

3. Dress to Impress

Even before you speak your date will have made a snap judgement about you based on how you are dressed, it’s human nature and so you want to be looking your best. If you turn up to a date looking scruffy then you come across as being lazy or uninterested. You don’t have to wear your best suit or ball gown but making a bit of an effort shows your date that you care, you have a good fashion sense and that you are willing to make the effort for them. Simple things like a nice clean pair of shoes without any holes in them and a clean shirt can go a long way.

4. Remember to Do Some Listening As Well As Talking

One of the most off putting things that you can do on a first date is talk too much about yourself and not showing an interest in your date. You should keep the conversation light and snappy, asking plenty questions about the other person to show that you are taking an interest but not so many that they feel that they are being quizzed. Finding a happy medium of talking about them and you is the best way to ensuring that you both enjoy each other’s company.

5. The Goodnight Kiss

Many people spend the whole date worrying about when they should lean in for the goodnight kiss or if they should do it at all. The best advice for this is to simply not think about and just see what happens. You will be able to tell how the date is going and whether they want you to kiss them so it is best to just do what is natural. If you are feeling uncomfortable about it then it is better not to kiss at all than to create an awkward moment at the end of the night. If it is really playing on your mind you could always go in for the kiss straight away and then you will be relaxed enough to enjoy the rest of the date.

If you are currently single then there are many places you can visit online to meet someone such as free online dating UK and free dating UK. Online dating is becoming more and more popular with many people seeing it as a great way to get to know the person well before they meet up.

 

Jim Anderson has been using online dating websites such as UK Dating and dating websites UK for the past few years and he met his current girlfriend online.

 

Christian dating facts to help you succeed

Christian Singles

Christians all over the world have been often credited with the setting of good standards when in comes to dating between Christian singles. While some may attribute this to a presumably conservative approach to dating by Christians, the truth  is that  the Christian approach by all its virtues is aimed at providing the much needed dignity to the dating process. While achieving this, Christians are able to preserve the religious traditions of the family. Christian dating people are also more secure within the arms of fellow Christian singles as it gives them the opportunity to share the faith and values without any hindrance.

It is to be understood that to be effective in christian dating like any other dating process one needs effective tips for guidance to ensure that you do not stumble at the appropriate time. Some of the  enlisted tips below should help your dating process and enable you to maximize your results and assist your dating experience to be a successful  one.

Be open with your date and do not influence

Accept and understand the pros and cons of your date. Always know the limits. Be careful of the conviction of your dating partner and do not coax your partner into something which is against his or her own natural desire , faith or belief. For instance, do not offer cigarettes or hard drinks to a devout Christian as you will be encouraging vices which isn’t right for you to do.

Marriage should be your goal

In Christian dating , the purpose  of dating is for the reason of conjugal union. As such when you start dating you should date with the intention of getting married and that should be your conscious aim. Christian dating is to not be aimed with petty intentions of small time relationships which can be neglected and abandoned. A long term relationship is the key to happiness in your life and it is God’s will that we should all be happy.So do not play with the feelings of someone else while ensuring that your own  feelings are also  preserved.

Get to know before giving commitments

It is always better to find about the background of the person that you are dating with, so that you know what kind of person it is before you go headlong into a relationship. For instance if you are dating with a partner who belongs to a different Christian denomination than yours, you could possibly find out the prohibitions and limits  in their group which may not be practiced in yours. With such information, you could review whether you are able to go the distance with your partner and this will also help you not to step in your partner’s personal space at the same time.

Sexual intimacy is a big no-no

In the Christian faith  premarital sex  rightly frowned upon and you should always remember that no matter what the temptation may be, you have to resist and deny this forbidden pleasure to yourself for the sake of God’s word. Such a resistance can give you self control as well as instill patience in you as an individual. This kind of an approach also gives both the Christian partners values of Christian upbringing and makes you understand that sex is a sacred gift that only a married couple can gift each other as their personal gift for each other at the  time of marriage . This temptation can be very challenging for Christian dating singles and those who can successfully overcome it will always be strong in their personal lives and their marriage is bound to be a success.

Honesty is the best virtue

Be open and honest with each other as Christian dating  singles Openness and honesty are vital in a relationship and can iron any differences that may crop up between two people. Do not withhold any secrets about the past from your partner as it could have a counterproductive effect in the future. It is better to caution your partner if your past contains a bleak history. This also helps the two of you to start together with a clean slate without the baggage of past history.

Always try to seek guidance

Seek advice from the community leaders and church elders whenever you can and also ask your parents for assistance when it comes to your dating experience. They have a better understanding of the religious demands of Christians through their experiences and learning and it is better to clear any doubts and misconceptions through your religious leaders before you commit any mistakes.

Give your partner the due

Respect is the cornerstone of any relationship. You should  instill the wisdom of conciliation to be within your discussions at all times. Respect each others difference of opinion and even if you argue about a certain topic or issue learn to respect each others views while stating your own convictions. Personal space of both the Christian partners is extremely important else you can invite unnecessary bickering on a consistent basis. Learn to withdraw if an argument is getting into discord. Discuss it at any casual moment later.

Allow your relationship the attention it deserves

Nourish your relationship with the word of God which should be supreme in your whole alliance as Christian dating singles.  Have discussions about your faith and talk about religious traditions whenever the opportunity arises among you. The word of God can bind two people like nothing else can.

Why online dating scores better than conventional dating

Christian Singles

Online dating has definitely caught the imagination of many singles all over the world who are trying to keep themselves abreast of the latest techniques used in finding a partner for life. With dating gaining popularity online, it has managed to change the lives of so many people since it was first introduced in the early nineties.

The process simply involves connecting with other individuals or community   through a website which puts up a list of prospects who are seeking for a partner. Alternatively you can also put up your own profile for other prospective dating singles to browse and respond. Many singles have found lasting friends through online dating and many others have found a life partner suitable to their taste.

Factors which could inspire online dating are
1.    Need for an online friend to share
2.    Pursuit of a lifetime partner for marriage
3.    The craving for discussion and debate with other people
4.    A solution for loneliness and solitude
5.    Addiction to the internet leading to aimless spillover to dating and chatting.
6.    Mischief mongers and other internet abusers

The first four factors make up the huge numbers of the online dating industry and as such are responsible for the flourish of online dating. Among them the first two are credited with being the lifeline of the industry. I find that the need for friendship is of equal to the need for a life time partner in marriage as friendship is sought more online due to various factors which has made people seek friends through the internet. However the basic function of online dating is to connect two people mainly of the opposite gender to come together and explore the possibility of leading a life together in marriage . The dating process simply helps the compatibility issue and allows you to gauge whether the person that you are dating with is good enough to live the distance with you or not.

Online dating sites also provide you with many valuable tips and guidelines to ensure that your dating experience is not sour due to many factors which may be linked to it. Among these, Christian dating advice is pretty sound and can be even applied by singles from other denominations to their own dating experiences to enhance their sense of  dating and keeping themselves and their date content and happy by adhering to some simple dos and donts.

Online dating is more advantageous to conventional dating since you can get to know a bit about the person in advance  although the same may not be accurate. Nevertheless you are informed a bit about the person’s likes and dislikes which can enable you to decide whether the date interests you or not

Compare that to conventional dating and you are in a complete blind alley where you don’t get to know whether the person you are meetings is even a vegetarian or not. Besides no physical attributes or details of the prospect is known to you and you have to meet before you can decide. Often such dates end on an embarrassing note and further communication is uncomfortable on both sides. Online dating does away with this major handicap.

Also online dating is no restricted to one community but spans across communities, regions and religions . you can have a wide choice. From regions to religions and languages there is one for everyone when it comes to dating online. The following dating communities are currently very active on the internet

•    Christian dating service
•    American Singles
•    Jewish dating service
•    UK dating
•    Filipino dating
•    Asian dating
•    Chinese dating
•    Hindu dating
•    Indian dating etc

In many Asian countries as well as some European and American states which have various classes and castes in society and separate communities within a broad religious head, there are separate dating groups to select from. This helps to narrow down choices and one can sift through various profiles of people who are closely related to your own community and then reduce the gap while checking the interests, hobbies, preferences, likes, dislikes etc so that the person that you choose for  a date is the closest to the one whom you would like to have as your friend or a partner.Despite the above checks you may not get the exact person that you were looking for but then at least you are making a studied  decision and not wasting your time aimlessly on all and sundry to get to your desired partner.

Why Christian Singles need to Pay for a Date

Christian Singles

Thousands and thousands of Christian singles on the internet all over the world are immersed into searching for the right single partner to spend their life with. However many of them end up on dubious sites of which they have little information nor any critical reviews. The challenge for them is therefore not about finding a Christian dating site as much as it is about finding the right one. If you are a Christian single serious about finding a partner for life  who shares your faith and your ideals then you should always consider signing up with a good Christian dating site.

Christian dating sites vs General dating sites

Christian singles find it much comfortable to link with prospective partners on christian dating sites other than general sites because christian dating sites offer them an opportunity to share something in common with other members of the same community and they can be subtly assured to be close to getting a partner who shares similar interests. Therefore the opportunity of such websites is huge and their reach, worldwide.

However the problem here is that christian singles often have the temptation to use free dating sites in preference to the paid ones. The thought of finding a partner being a serious one, it is not possible to achieve this objective on free sites which many Christians do not actively consider. People who register on free sites cannot be as serious as  those who register on paid sites. However in a bid to get a free listing many Christians ignore this hard reality and pursue some freebies on the internet in the hope of finding their lifetime partner

Paid sites vs free dating sites

Paid subscribers registered with any Christian dating website are obviously more intent on finding a partner for life and this can be gauged from the fact that they are willing to spend money on something which will define their life ahead. Christian singles need to consider this aspect before going headlong into online christian dating. So although you might have to pay some money to seek a partner, it is the most wisest thing to do instead of wasting time on free sites which have members who may be there just for fun or with little seriousness about marriage.

On free sites the added risk of being shown fake profiles is also a potent risk. Often, the free sense of the site allows for the thrill of many people to list out fake details about themselves as there is little deterrent against it.However on genuine sites with paid subscriptions such an eventuality is very rare as the people registered in most cases are genuinely interested in marriage.

This same scenario is also applicable to social networking sites which lure you into a chat even more faster and make you believe in their profile and it can be very difficult in such cases to identify the genuine people from the rest.

So while scanning on the internet it is better to seek a good christian dating site which has a good reputation and take a paid subscription which can give you a measurable chance of finding the right partner. Check some reviews on the site and go through some forums to confirm its reputation.However it is best to pursue your dating ambitions with christian dating sites rather than the others.

For a start, many christian dating sites offer a trial window to put you through the paces and also to check the efficacy of the dating system on their site. This is another indicator of the site’s confidence in their ability to retain you as a paid member on the basis of the merit of their services.So in case you wish to get started you could first take the free trial and subsequently decide on opting for the paid subscription.

A good profile is the key

For your dating passage to be smooth ensure that you make a good profile of yourself by listing out all your positives.Do not indulge in self flattery but be positive. Also be truthful in all that you state and do not copy somebody else’s profile although you may want to check other profiles to get a rough guideline on how profiles are built. But essentially be yourself.

So if you are indeed seeking  to find that elusive  Christian dating single for your life the first thing to reject are wholesale free websites which are useless in the long run and instead migrate your thoughts over to the paid sites which will reward your time and money and hopefully help you find the right partner for you to build a happy life together.

Christian Singles Online Advice

Christian Singles

If you are a Christian looking for a significant other with whom you can share your life, you might want to try online dating. There are many Christian singles online, looking for love and companionship. In the past when couples said they met online, they were questioned and their story was unique. With today’s technology, it is becoming more acceptable and much easier to find love online.

Christian singles online may want to go to dating websites that are designed just for Christians. These websites try to line couples up that not only have similar hobbies or personalities, but also have similar beliefs. If your faith is important to you, you will want someone who shares your morals.

Many of these dating websites offer free trials. You can join for free and test things out. If you do not like what you see as you browse around the site and try it out, you can cancel before you are charged. Some of the sites say that if you do not like your matches, you will get your money back. There are plenty of options for Christian singles online.

If you do not want to have to pay to find love, you can join some of the other dating sites. As long as you mention that you are a Christian, and are looking for another Christian, you should be able to find people with your values. You may get some strange comments on occasion, but if you are not easily offended, you can find people with your morals just about anywhere on the internet.

With any kind of blind dating, you will want to proceed with care. Talk with the person you meet over email for awhile before you exchange any information. If you decide to meet in person, take someone along with you or meet in a public location. You can never know for sure who you are talking to when you chat on the computer.

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