What Are They Really Saying? Reading Body Language on the First Date

A couple on their first date have an infinite number of questions running through their heads: Does he like me? Am I making a good impression on her? Does he find me attractive? Although couples can’t read each others’ minds, they can take hints from their date’s body language.

licking lipsRaised Eyebrows – If your date raises their eyebrows, it’s a sign they find you engaging. People raise their eyebrows as a subconscious attempt to take in as much as possible of what’s right before them. This expression is often a quick reflex.

Licking Lips – People commonly lick their lips when they see something they desire. If your date is licking their lips while staring at you, it’s a good possibility that you’re at the top of their craving list.

Palms Faceup – Extending your hands palms-up shows that you desire a closer connection to the person you are talking to. A person who extends their hands to you with palms faceup is feeling open and submissive.

Tight-Lipped Smile – When a person smiles at you with their upper lip tight and their teeth barely peeking through, this shows that, though they may enjoy your company, there is no romantic interest.

Attractive blonde portraitHalf Smile or Sneer – A person who is half smiling at you, or even flat-out sneering, is not being sincere with you. They may only expect one thing from the first date, and you can expect to never hear from them again after they get what they want.

Toes Pointed Inward – If your date is standing or sitting with their toes pointed inward, this indicates they are interested but feeling shy and insecure. Make sure your body language is open but not overbearing, showing that you are mutually interested but won’t overpower them.

Head Titled – A tilt of the head signals your date that you want them to come closer, literally and figuratively.

Crossed Arms – Although some people do this when feeling awkward or insecure, this can also be a sign that a person is uninterested and trying to close themselves off from their date. They may feel you are coming on too strong.

Intense Eye Contact – Eye contact is usually a good thing, but if your date won’t break eye contact and stares intensely, they may be attempting to seduce you.

Face Touch – If your date touches their face, it’s a sign you have their attention. They are trying to listen to you and wish they could be touching your face as well.

touching hairHand Gestures – A person who talks with their hands is usually a good communicator. The larger the gestures, the more they are attempting to signal their interest in you.

Legs Apart – Sitting or standing with your legs apart is a primal instinct showing that you are hot for someone. This is a complicated signal, as some people do this while genuinely interested, and others when they have an over-inflated ego.

Remember that body language is a subconscious language. Some people may unintentionally stand, sit, or gesture in a negative way. Use body language as a way of taking hints, but don’t give up completely if you receive both positive and negative vibes from your date. They may simply need to feel more secure before they open up with their body language.

 

This was a guest post by John from Body Language training program the Body Language Guide. Download our latest series of videos to learn more about attraction body langauge to help with your dating!

The Basics of Body Language

The Basics of Body Language

Body language is one of the most important parts of your communication, according to some of the most recent studies more than 50% of your communication is expressed via the body and only 8 % from what you are saying. For that reason, if you really want to attract women, you will have to make sure that you know how to use the body language properly. If you are really looking to find out what the basics of body language are, I would like to point out some of the main ones:

  1. First of all, make sure you smile when you talk; especially if that is the first time you meet someone. That is the best way to make someone special feel more comfortable, you will have a better chance of making her want to date you again.
  2. Make sure that you maintain eye contact during about 70% of time when you are talking with a woman. This means you need to look at her face when she is talking with you. Make sure that you avoid looking at her chest.
  3. Another very important thing that you will have to take care of when you are talking with a woman is having upright posture. If you see some of the pictures of some of the most famous actors in Hollywood you will notice that all of them have very good upright posture, so make sure that you try to look like them. If you have good upright posture, women will think of you as healthy and really good looking.
  4. Make gestures with open palms, because that is very important to show that all the things you are saying have some meaning and also will make others feel more comfortable around you. Gestures are very important as they give more meaning to all the things that you are saying and also it will show women, with whom you are dating that you are more confident in all the things that you say.

Those 4 main things are the main part of the body language communication, but keep in mind that if you are really looking to have a better dating experience, you will have to spend more time learning the essentials of body language. Furthermore, the guide “GuyGetsGirl” is one of the best guides available on the market and I can assure you that there you will find a lot of information how to do things right when you are dating.

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