Online Dating Tips and Meeting in Person

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The world of online dating is exploding like never before and there are more relationships starting over the Internet than ever. There are people meeting online right now and laying the groundwork necessary to establish a connection that could grow into something else. It’s important to stay focused if true love is your ultimate goal because there are a lot of distractions when it comes to online dating. But if you remember to take things slow, and you have a healthy perspective about the situation you could find yourself meeting someone in real life in no time. And when that moment comes you could be filled with stress and anxiety, but it can be incredibly thrilling at the same time. Here are some basic online dating tips for when you finally get to meet that special person in real life.

Take things slowly – even if you have been e-mailing back and forth for quite some time it’s important to understand that an online persona is often different than what a person is in real life. When a person is online, they can be a bit braver than they usually are, or they might fudge the facts a little bit when it comes to certain details. You also have to consider that you might have built them up into something different entirely, and a lot of what you know about them actually comes from your own head. This is not to say the date is going to be some surprising disaster, but you have to be realistic about the situation as well.

Remember it’s just a date – even if you have started a relationship online, once you agree to meet in person it pretty much turns into a regular dating situation. That means that first date tips apply, and in many aspects you are starting from zero. You still have to worry about making a great first impression and that’s usually done by showing up on time, dressing well for the occasion, and being on your best behavior. Remember, you can’t rely on Internet websites to do all of the work for you. Once you are face-to-face then you have to kick into real-life date mode and be on your game if you want to establish any type of chemistry.

A Great Date And He Was Cute, Too

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Sometimes a great date isn’t about the guy. Not to say that this is always the case, because it isn’t- I love a cute guy just as much as the next girl. But I can appreciate a great date even if they guy isn’t my type.  Take for example this date I went on just last week. It was amazing and I think it would have been great with anyone, but as an added bonus he was adorable. All I can say is that I keep waiting for the phone to ring again.

He picked me up and was actually on time which is always a plus. Then we went out to the new Italian restaurant for dinner. I had some of the best spaghetti that I have eaten and their garlic bread was to die for. As dinner was wrapping up I suggested that we split a dessert, but he said that he had something else planned for after so we didn’t. He paid the bill and we left.

Then he took me down to the park. It wasn’t that late and there were tons of people out enjoying the beautiful night, so it wasn’t creepy at all. He built a fire in this little fire pit and pulled all the makings for smores out of a bag that he had brought along. We just sat there roasting marshmallows and talking. The melted chocolate-y goodness of that delicious dessert was just what I needed. I probably ate way more than I should have and was a little embarrassed when we easily ate the entire bag of marshmallows.  Then he took me home and said goodbye.

I know that smores sound a little unconventional on a date, but if he can plan that for a first date, I can’t wait to see what he comes up with for the second.

Men and Dating: How to Make the First Move

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The pressure felt when dating can be daunting for any man, whether he’s a regular at a singles bar or he’s fresh out of a committed relationship and new on the market. This pressure comes from the way we feel we must present ourselves, to the way we talk to and how to treat our female counterparts during courting. Here are a few examples on what to do (and what not to do) when making the first move.

The Pick Up- For a woman you have just met or would like to meet.

Body language is a large part of how singles interact with each other, even before they have spoken. As men, once we learn to decode these signals and how to give our own, we can know more about how a woman views us. Direct eye contact, touching her face or a man and leaning in toward a man are ways that women show they are interested. Once you’ve made eye contact with a woman, hold it there to show that you are also interested. When speaking, face a woman directly and pay close attention to her body language. She’ll let you know when she is ready to let you get close. Becoming a pick up artist isn’t just luck or natural talent. It involves learning to be aware of the signals and practice.

The Move In- For a woman that you already know, and would like to know better.

Setting up a date with this woman that allows you to converse in a casual atmosphere will allow you to show your interest, without putting the added pressure of a typical ‘let’s impress each other’ first date. When putting the moves on this girl, timing is crucial. After all, there is probably a reason, like a previous boyfriend or work conflict, which kept you from approaching her in this way before. Choose your moment carefully. The art of seduction requires timing, training, and practice to be consistently successful. Part of picking the right moment is also about learning how to go for what you want, and stop hesitating.

The Next Level- For a woman you already know quite well.

This next scenario can go one of three ways. If all goes in your favor, she will come running into your arms. However, it is possible that she could be flattered but not want to jeopardize your friendship or reject the idea completely and feel uncomfortable around you. To avoid awkwardness, start by being open and honest about your feelings. It may sound silly, but she will still respect you, even if the feelings aren’t mutual. If she is open to exploring a relationship, take your time when making the first move to ensure that the transition from friends to something more meaningful is smooth for both sides.

Once you have assessed the situation and made the first move, things get a little easier. The key to making that first move is not to rush blindly into any situation. If you look before you jump you’ll both have a better idea of what you’re getting into, and you’ll be more at ease with one another in the long run.

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5 Tips for Dating: The Keys to Success

While some navigate the world of dating with ease, others struggle to get their feet on the ground. Dating is a science, with specific things that you should and shouldn’t do when trying to win someone over.

If you struggle to find the right words to say or struggle to know what to do on a date, we’re here to help. These five tips will help to make it easier for you as you work to impress someone on a first date.

1) Skip the Movie

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One of the first things that people turn to when thinking about their first date is the movie theater. People always try to use movies as a way to break the ice during a first date. This is incredibly unfortunate, as movies are generally considered to be the worst first dates to go on. Think about it: if you are watching a movie, how are you supposed to get to know the person? Sitting next to someone for two hours while silently watching a movie is not a great way to start of a date. Go to dinner or a coffee shop instead to have a public setting that allows for conversation.

2) Ask Questions

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If you are going on a date, you need to think about the others person. You are there to learn about the person, not to talk about yourself. BE sure to keep asking the person questions about who they are and what they enjoy. People like to talk about themselves, and they like to know that someone is interested in who they are.

3) Avoid Bad Questions

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There are some questions that are simply inappropriate for a first date. Do not ask the person about previous boyfriends or girlfriends, and do not ask the date extremely person questions. Asking about sexual preferences or income amounts are sure-fire ways to ruin the date.

4) Pay

Pay for the Date

There are some people who say that splitting the bill on a first date is the best move to make. Avoid that – simply step up and pay for the dinner. Both men and women will be impressed by someone who pays for their dinner.

5) Be Yourself

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At the end of the day, you simply need to be yourself. Do not try to put up a front and act like someone you are not – the person won’t be falling for you, they will be falling for who they think you are.

Some of these tips may go against everything that you would consider for a first date, such as skipping the movie. Other tips may seem relatively obvious, such as dressing to impress. In the end, anyone going on a first date may have cloudy judgment; they’re nervous and they’re excited. It can be easy to forget some of the most basic rules when you are getting ready to go on the date. Take the time to review these tips well in advance of your date. They will help you to prepare, helping you to make a great first impression.

How to Pick a Cute Woman

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There are several things that you have to consider before thinking of picking up a girl at the beach, in the local pub, or in college. These things are what make the difference. You may not give them that much attention, but the women definitely do.

If you want to pick up cute chicks, then you should evaluate yourself first.

  1. When was the last time you have a haircut? And grungy long hair days are gone, so get a cut (and recommended by your hairdresser if you have no idea about the tendency nowadays) and keep yourself clean and elegant.
  2. If you insist on the existence of the beard, keep it under control. Most girls do not like facial hair, because they are rough and not attractive. If you have dry skin, consider using a moisturizing lotion for a couple of times a day. If you have oily skin and acne, consider making a treatment plan to get rid of it.
  3. If you want to pick up a cute girl, you have to worry about how your body looks like. You do not need to be a body builder, but you must try to get regular exercise.
  4. There is nothing worse than bad breath. Good oral hygiene is so important. Be sure to brush your teeth three times a day and use mouthwash or breath mints. If your teeth are disgusting, your “hello” will mean “go away” to the cute little chicks. Bad breath and horrible teeth are the biggest turn-offs for women.

  5. Clothing – What are you wearing? You do not have to spend every penny you have on items of fashionable clothing, but to get one or two good pairs of jeans, some pretty cute shirts, a pair or two of shoes that go with everything. You can even get cowboy boots; these may go with every style.

When you see a cute girl you’re interested in, do not be afraid to start a conversation. If you do not take the first step, you never know what might happen. Start a conversation and make the first contact with the eyes, not the mouth. If you look good and feel good, you will increase your chances of ten times to get a date with a cute woman.

Teach Me To Dance : How to pull a girl on the dance floor

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Teach Me To Dance : How to pull a girl on the dance floor

When the music is blaring and there’s lots and lots of competition, how do you get the killer edge? You’re not the sharpest tool in the shed, neither the best looking person there. You got that really good dancer showing his moves and it really makes you look silly with your little “feet dance”… so how do you get that killer blonde on the dance floor, that has an army of lads and girl friends around her?

This is by far one of the hardest pulling situations, and takes either really good looks, really good luck, or perfect execution of this method, I’m calling: “Teach Me To Dance”

You cannot be scared of rejection, and you can not be scared of what anyone will think of you, but this method has a surprisingly good success rate.

So here goes, step one…

use your friends.

How exactly can you use your friends? Well just nudge them to get on the dance floor with you. If you already are, gather them to get a bit closer. Point out the girls, and notably even your girl (the one you’re after). Now if you’re friends are total wreck heads like mine are, they’ll be drooling all over the girls. Please refrain from doing this yourself. It can be tempting when you’re drunk to act like this, but if you keep your cool and carry on with your little feet dance you’ll reap the rewards later. Don’t worry about dancing any good like those “spice boys”, just have a laugh. In fact, take the piss out of yourself dancing.

Don’t get me wrong have the giggle with your friends, look as if you’re enjoying yourself. If you’re close enough now, you can move onto step 2…

the eye catcher.

The Eye Catcher is a sort of art. You need to catch her eye without staring. So this requires, carrying on with your feet dance, having the laugh with the boys but moving your eyes through the area which the girl is in. Keep doing it, eventually you will catch her eye. This is where you normally would do your goofy smile. Leave that out. Instead lock eyes, for a good few seconds, then look away and carry on having the laugh with mates. You can do this a few times, make it a tiny bit obvious you’re interested.

the approach

Now you have a couple of options. She knows you exist, but now what. That depends on the situation. If she is in a small group of friends approaching her will be uneasy for her as she will not want to leave her friends (yes, girls care about their friends), but is she is in a big group of friends, and some of her friends are dancing with lads, then that’s good. Now the next part is something that’s tried and tested and it working will entirely depend on the girls personality. But I’ve had girls tell me to piss off, and it’s still worked out where I got the number. This is just an opener, it’s as good as any.

Go up to the girl and say (while still doing your little feet dance): “Could you teach me how to dance, I really can’t and feel a bit stupid!”

Now the girl will laugh, and feel a little bit sorry for you, and might even think you’re a bit cute. Her womanly motherly instincts will come into play and she will be curious. In which case this starts a conversation… you may well be in.

She may on the other hand, tell you to piss off. Now you’ve either got a feisty one (sometimes the best ones) or a downright mardy bitch. Either way you don’t have much to lose now. Say things like “I was willing to pay for your services, gosh…” or “I was taking the piss anyway, I’m a way better dancer than you”.

Try twice with remarks like that, use your initiative, and you may just get a conversation starter. Make her laugh and you’re in.

She may laugh it off and carry on dancing, but now you have let yourself in, dance by her.

the move.

Once you’ve started a conversation one way or another, and began to dance with her, now you can make a bit of an intimate move. The conversation in the loud club will not have gone that far I’m sure. You may have got as far as “what’s your name?” and “where you from?”, but you need to move it back on to dancing.

The next step is… “So are you going to teach me or what, I’m really crap look!” (do a little crap dancing move and get a giggle)…

Involve her friends a little bit by saying to them “I’m trying to get her to teach me how to dance”.

Everyone knows this isn’t the reason why you’re dancing with her… but everyone accepts it as ‘the hook’. It’s the theme of the conversation. Nothing’s lost, and nothings serious if we cover it up with this ‘theme’. It’s like… she hasn’t rejected you, she just didn’t want to teach you how to dance 🙂

Now you must be getting a little bit more comfortable. NO other lads on the dance floor are doing this method, they all either try to dance really cool, or just dribble all over the girls, slap their arses or try and get behind them and dance. Don’t get me wrong this situation sometimes works, but you make a right fool out of yourself, and requires both parties to be extremely drunk. It’s throwing shit against the wall and hoping it sticks. The “teach me to dance” method is more calculated and has a little less risk.

The next step is a biggie but I’m sure by now you can do this bit.

“I’ll just dance behind you, it will make me look good”

Don’t ask. Be dominating. Now make your approach… one of two things will happen obviously. Either she will push you away, or she will accept you dancing with her.

If she pushes you away, it’s not the end of world. Have a giggle. Remember at the end of the day you weren’t trying to pull her. You were trying to  get her to teach you how to dance 🙂

Stay with it, and carry on dancing near them making the odd remark, and maybe just maybe you can hook up off the dance floor and carry on with the theme. “So when are you going to teach me how to dance then!?”… “Can I get your number we need to arrange these dancing lessons”.

the close.

If you succeeded in getting her to dance with you, you now have to be Mr cool. Don’t go diving in to kiss her, unless it seems that type of situation. Dance with her for a song… don’t be clingy, then tell her you’ll meet her off the dance floor and buy her a drink for being such a good dance teacher. If she is in a situation where you can get her number or email or face book do so, this is normally when they are not so into the song.

So there you have it, a method to pull on the dance floor.

Use it wisely.

Jonathon X is a dating expert and is the creative director at EasyFindADate.com who specialise in free dating.