3 Important Factors For Attracting Younger Women

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3 Important Factors For Attracting Younger Women

Dating and getting younger women does not depend on your age, or how wide the age difference you have with the girl. The principles of attraction works for any woman of any age. It’s just a matter adjusting your tactics a little bit if you want to date someone younger.

Success in dating women really boils down to three major factors:

1. The image that you project to others
2. Your mindset, values system, or thinking habits
3. Your criteria for selecting women

The three things mentioned above remains the same for any man in any age bracket. There are only slight variations when dealing with specific interests related to a particular age group, but those factors remain the same.

Face this truth. Girls will be girls. Their psychological and emotional "code" won’t change regardless of age. Only their priorities and life situations change.

1. The Image You Project To Others

When we say the word "image", this is not totally limited to the way you handle yourself and dress up (although those things are part of your image) The bigger idea about the word "image" is the way a woman forms an overall opinion of you as a person, based on physical appearance, your status in the world, your personality and manner, what you say, and how other people regard you.

Ideally, you’d like her to form a favorable idea of who you are as a total person. You see, attractive women have a knack for finding out who you really are inside.

You can impress her with your looks, status, and moves. But at the back of her head she’s constantly thinking: "I want to know the kind of person he really is on the INSIDE".

You must be able to give her an overall idea of your personality that removes all her resistance regarding your age, physical imperfections, weight, and anything else which might be considered a negative trait on your part.

Generally, women choose men who possess the qualities that she WANTS.

That’s really what it boils down to: Do you have what she wants?

While it’s true that most women dream of having a Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise, but in real life they’re willing to go beyond good looks if you have personality traits that they’re looking for.

There are some many advantages that come with age: Experience, social status, maturity, security, financial stability…and many other things that make a woman comfortable.

If you want to succeed in attracting younger females, do not capitalize on the negative aspects of getting older. Instead, capitalize on the positive aspects and realize that you deserve to have a wonderful, attractive woman.

When it comes to life experience, you can’t brag about it. Don’t just come over to a younger woman and say "I have experience and I can give you the security you want". That’s just stupid. Instead, let your actions speak for you. Your experience and maturity will be evident in how you handle situations, and how you carry yourself.

Why not take an honest look at yourself and ask this question: "What positive traits do I possess that makes me attractive to the opposite sex?"

Put yourself in a woman’s shoes. If you were her, would you consider dating a guy like yourself?

I’m 100% sure that whatever your background is, or how "ugly" you think you might be, there are at least some physical and personal traits that makes you attractive to others.

Find those traits and qualities, then capitalize on them. Chances are, if you find some things about yourself that are attractive and then accentuate them, some women will take notice and like you for those traits as well.

Don’t forget this: A woman’s mindset towards attraction never changes regardless of her age. Only their priorities change, but they are still attracted to guys the same way they were attracted to boys during grade school days.

So with your actions, demonstrate to everyone that you’re "Mr. Right", and project the image of a person who is inside every woman’s dream.

The ideal image of a man in the mind of a woman is someone who is young, masculine, and strong (both physically and emotionally). You cannot prevent your age, but you can always act and speak in a youthful way. Being masculine involves doing things in a manly way, such as making firm decisions, solving conflicts, showing that you are in charge..etc. And being strong, physically and emotionally, means you should maintain your body with proper exercise and have a positive outlook in life.

Project the image of a capable man who knows how to take charge, and she will see you in a positive light despite of your age. In fact, age is totally irrelevant when it comes to attraction.

2. Your Mindset Values System, And Thinking Habits

The outward image that you portray directly stems from your thought patterns and beliefs at this very moment. What’s your belief and opinion about yourself?

What do you think are your strengths and weaknesses?

I’ll ask you a straight question. Do you feel confident that you can pick up a hot, insanely attractive 25 year old without much effort? Or do you believe that you can no longer do that because of your age?

I’ve heard all kinds of excuses that men make each time they are asked those same questions. In fact, there is almost an equally amount of 25 year old guys who believe that they CAN’T pick up an attractive 25 year old girl..even if they tried! So this fear of rejection is embedded in the emotions of most men, and it needs to be overcome in order to be successful with women.

Age is not really the problem. It’s your negative beliefs and feelings that prevent you from having fulfilling relationships with attractive women. In fact, age is a plus factor, not a liability.

Some men have more difficulty changing their beliefs than others. This is because our thought feelings are in fact patterns and habits of behavior that are hard to break.

However, if you are persisted and have commitment to improve yourself, you can free yourself from negative thinking patterns and false, unfounded beliefs.

You’ll be surprised at how many romantic opportunities will open up to you when you start believing in yourself.

The key is to develop GENUINE confidence and positive self-esteem. Jerks and overly cocky people are not confident, they are insecure. But if you have real confidence in your abilities, you will not be scared to approach and date any woman you like.

You must look like you’re extremely comfortable with dating situations and is not intimidated with pretty girls. When women notice that you seem like "you’ve done it before", they will not think twice about giving you a fair try.

Remember, but acting it out, it has to come from a genuine belief that you have. Believe that you dating is not difficult. Imagine yourself relaxed and having fun with an attractive woman, and she is enjoying herself with you as well. Then go out there and make this mental picture real.

3. Your criteria for selecting women

I have a friend in his mid-50’s who resides in India. He visits a karaoke bar every Monday sings a couple or more songs. his voice isn’t exceptional, but is definitely powerful worth hearing. 

After finishing his first song, he buys free drinks for people around him. In just a matter of weeks since he started visiting that bar, he became extremely well known there.

Even though he lived in India, a place which has conservative values when it comes to dating, my friend was able to date lots of women in their twenties just in that bar alone.

The reason? He exudes confidence and makes a powerful statement whenever present. We can say that he has a very high social status in that karaoke bar. He has successfully rose above the ranks and reached the very top of the pecking order. He did this by changing his mindset, and his renewed confidence emanated to the world around him. This allowed him to attract more women…mostly younger than him.

Whether you like it or not, women are searching for some real world demonstration of the pecking order. She’s looking for a guy who’s on top of the "food chain" of society. Because you’re older, girls naturally feel that you would be far more superior to younger guys in terms of experience and social status. But still, you have to demonstrate that social status. It doesn’t necessarily follow that you should pay for everything, but you should display some sort of authority and influence in the real world.

No matter who you select, she’s looking for some type of demonstration of the pecking order. You’re expected to be at the top because you’re older. Those at the top take care of the ones underneath him. Don’t mistake this to mean you pay for everything. It’s not like you have to pay for her college tuition.

Think of ways on how to "demonstrate" your authority, influence and social status to the particular age group of women that you’re targeting. Remember that each age group has varying definitions of the pecking order.

It is helpful for you to go to places where you can regularly meet and hook up with different women from various age groups. This way, you know how to deal with any women, regardless of the circumstances.

When the times comes that you’re totally confident in your ability to pickup attractive women anytime, anywhere, your age and her age stops being a barrier. But for the sake of practicing your skill, go to places where you can feel comfortable socializing and where you can gradually work your way up in the pecking order.

Some good places are karaoke bars, gym clubs, yoga classes, self development seminars..and many others.

The important thing is to go where women are going. I mean, you can’t expect hot, pretty girls to pop out in the middle a graveyard, right? Go where the action is, then grab every opportunity to practice your skills.

The Reason Why I Began Dating Younger Women

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The Reason Why I Began Dating Younger Women

Most mature single guys are looking girls who are attractive, sexy, and YOUNGER. If you’re one of those men, here’s what you should always keep in mind: Women LIKE guys are who are considerably older than them.

In the past two centuries, the American government managed to take statistics of married couples in this country. A close look at the statistical trends on marriages in the United States during the last 200 years suggests that men have a wide age gap with the women they marry. That’s correct — woman prefer older guys…it’s a timeless classic. The underlying reason behind this can be understood by studying evolution.

Women are psychologically inclined to search for security, safety, and other things in between. She does so because it’s embedded in her DNA and human nature to provide an environment conducive to raising a child. An older man can provide security and safety because of his rich personal experiences, well developed personal skills, and knowledge of the real world.

Social norms usually project men as desperate and hopeless romantics, who must do all they can to get a life partner as soon as possible. That may be true in some cases, but in majority of cases, young women are deeply inclined to seek out older guys.

The next thing that you should keep in mind is this:

If you devote yourself to learning art of pickup and dating, in approximately two years or less, you will be a skilled pro in dating women and enjoy a fulfilled sex life than  you ever thought possible.

Do you know that the typical guy only gets involved sexually with an average of 4 to 7 women in his entire lifespan? The media and social norms don’t accept this picture, it’s true according to statistics.

This means that it doesn’t matter how old you are, or even if you’re fifty-year-old virgin. If you have the courage and decision to overcome your personal fears, change your mindset, learn new ideas, and take firm action…your life will change and you will have more fulfillment with women.

What you should do is to start the learning process IMMEDIATELY, and dump all the excuses you might be making up in your head right now.

The next few months will be an opportunity for you to practice new practical dating techniques, and it will be a remarkable experience. It is never too late to make a change. If you’ve failed a thousand times with women in the past, there is still plenty of time to start from scratch and revolutionize your dating skills.

Always think and believe that you are not desperate. Lose the idea that you’re "running out of time". The sooner you get rid of that thought, the sooner you’ll experience success with women.

Being anxious and desperate only makes you appear cheap. Acting as if you NEED a girlfriend right now is an attitude that will turn off most women.

Techniques To Start With

1. Project A Youthful Image

The way you project your age is what counts the most, not the actual number of your years. By projecting a youtful image, I mean you should be happy, see the lighter side of things, and enjoy life to the fullest. Consider loosening up and possibly get back to wearing your jeans again. (Not a bad idea).

I suggest that you go to a clothing store this week and buy a new pair of jeans this week. Lots of older guys keep wearing old, worn-out jeans, and they’re signal to the entire world how old and outdated the are.

Take an honest, close scrutiny at your hairstyle, appearance, and wardrobe. consider updating your style a little bit.

If you’re enjoying life, having fun, and projecting a carefree attitude, younger women are bound to notice you. Balance your proper mindset with an updated wardrobe and appearance and you can be really successful in dating younger women.

2. Be Fun loving

I often give advice to mature guys are too serious with themselves.

Imagine there are four hot women in a club. they’re relaxing, enjoying themselves, and taking some time off to unwind. The suddenly a guy enters the scene and starts talking about serious topics like politics, literature, work related issues..etc. Do you think those girls will like it? Of course not. It doesn’t fit in the situation!

Women expect older guys to be mature, but there is certainly a proper time and place to get serious. For this reason, when you’re out with a hot younger woman, loosen up and act relaxed, calm, and always on the lighter side.

The laidback, relaxed energy you project is the type of "atmosphere" that attracts women when you interact with them.

If you think loosening up and having fun when conversing with a woman is difficult, I suggest that you take an honest look at yourself and your personal issues.

Having a reality that is full of work, serious stuff, and no time for play can truly take its toll on your ability to enjoy life. Problem is, this affects your ability to land a long term relationship with an attractive woman. As the song goes, "Girls just want to have fun". So if they can’t have fun with you, they’ll choose someone else to have fun with.

More often, serious guys are the ones who love watching serious films and TV shows. They are primarily interested in politics, intellectually stimulating documentaries, and even appreciate music from many centuries ago.

A good idea would be to balance your intellectual appetite with films and TV shows which bring out the lighter side in you. Watch movies that are simple, funny, and relaxing. Appreciate TV shows with good clean fun, and learn to make way for humor in your personality.

If you only read Time magazine or stock market magazines, try adding some entertaining readings to your collection. Listen to some music that are "cool" and recently popular.

Being "updated" gives you a string of initial topics to use when conversing with women. I did not say that you should totally screw all that stuff about politics, stock market, work, books, etc…but you can save it for later, when you’re already intimate with a woman.

For the meantime, while you’re still dating and flirting, stick to easier topics and fun conversations.

This also gives you fun conversational topics to talk to women about. That hot 25-year-old babe at the bar might know a surprising amount about politics, but that doesn’t mean she wants to talk about it when she’s unwinding with a few drinks.

Practice and incorporate a cheerful, fun loving attitude into your personality.

Try it first on your friends. When you’re talking them, try to stay clear from any topics that are too serious. Get into the habit of inserting cool humor in your conversations, and it will naturally come out when you’re out with women you particularly like.

3. Be Outgoing!

As men age, their social connections dwindle down. College buddies start to marry and start a family. Other social connections tend to be busy with work and all that stuff.

Perhaps you’re one of those people who just moved in to a new town and you haven’t developed new acquaintances yet. Or maybe you just don’t lie going out anymore, feeling like a fossil to hang around in local bars like before.

This is common sense, but I feel the need to say it: You should definitely go out once again.

Start by wrapping your socializing efforts with a hobby that you love to do.

A good idea is to start attending personal development events and recreational activities in your area. If you have already sunk to being shy and introverted, shake yourself up and get a renewed confidence. Talk to two or more people each day and engage in fun, fulfilling and meaningful conversations. This will help you strike a friendly chord with new friends.

Staying in your shell won’t do you good. better get out there.

Issues Related To Age:

Do you find your age embarrassing, and feel the need to lie about it?

Of course, it is best to tell the truth. However, you are not obliged to reveal your age to a woman when you meet her.

A woman will press you early on for information regarding age, educational background, line of work..etc., but as I said, you are in no obligation to reveal all that in the early stages of meeting her

Stimulate her curiosity, by not telling it all to her at once. Instead, reveal yourself gradually, as time progresses. This way, she will always look forward to hanging with you again, because she always learns something new about you that she has never been aware of before.

Most guys make a stupid mistake by bragging about all their accomplishments, stating all their achievements, and showing the girl how important he is in society. It just won’t work. Doing that will leave the girl with no excitement to talk to you again.

Let women ask the personal questions. Then answer in such a way that you will escalate the suspense, making her want to know more.

Secrets To Attracting Hot, Younger Women Part III

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Secrets To Attracting Hot, Younger Women Part III

The key is to let her get used to you touching her. Later when you’re together at the right place and the right time, she won’t object when you start holding her waist, or kiss her, and start the foreplay…all because you already conditioned her early on.

The main reason why guys fail to take things to the next level is because they are afraid of rejection. They fear that the girl will regard their movements as too aggressive. Later on, this lack of initiative backfires on the guy, because he will eventually lose the girl without getting laid or even kissed.

If you understand the attraction process, laid the right foundation, initiated stimulating conversation, then slowly build it up to physical touching…she will not object when you escalate things to the next level. But you have to take the lead. Be the one to make it happen.

Let me tell you a story. In the past, I’ve had a girl come over to my house and let her sleep on my bed. All night long, I didn’t try to do anything because I don’t want to botch things up. We just lay on the bed for hours, just talking and laughing. Later, she fell asleep while I remained awake all night..aroused.

I thought I did the right thing…that if I never pushed things to the next level, she will think of me as a gentleman and she’ll want to have sex the next time we’re together.

Sadly, there was no next time. She never contacted me again. We never went out again. That was the last time. By failing to take things to the next level, she lost interest in me.

I failed to realize that she’s a smart, sexually mature person.

When she agreed to come over to my house and sleep there, she already knew that we were supposed to make love. She was waiting for me to do something, but I didn’t. So that became the end of it.

The secret is to LEAD to sexual intimacy by following a series of steps progressively. The most common mistake that guys make is trying to get a girl to sleep with him before establishing the right foundation.

It is foolish to ask a girl out if you’ve never even spent some time talking with her and getting her interested. In the same way, it is useless to attempt a kiss if you’ve never established any previous physical contact.

You “set up” the first kiss my establishing minor, non-threatening physical contact with her all throughout the time you spend together. Some of these minor physical touches include brushing her hair aside if it’s flying around, giving her a short hand massage when she’s tired, placing your hand at the back of her waist while you’re leading her to a door.

Touching the back of her waist is an erogenous spot, meaning, it has lots of nerve endings that spark sexual attraction in women. Now you know. .

If the attraction starts to become mutual, she will usually say something about it in the form of hints. When she begins to express those hints, be as calm as before. Don’t jump to your seat as if you’re ready to devour her. Just be cool. If she starts to imply that she really likes you, give her a somewhat unclear reply that leaves her thinking:

HER: “So what you do you think…us?”

YOU: “You know what, I really had fun with you. Let’s just keep it cool and see what happens…no commitments and no pressure”.

(If you act as if you’re not in a hurry to get into a relationship with her and that you don’t give a damn whether it happens or not, the more she’ll get desperate to have you!)

And remember, as I said before, never give her a confirmation that you’re interested in her. Act as if you’re having fun and you enjoy being with her, but she should be left thinking to herself, “Does she REALLY like me, or not”?

Make her the one to crave for YOUR approval, not the other way around. Be the one in total control.

That’s the way it should be if you want to attract hot, young women to you.

Secrets To Attracting Hot, Younger Women Part II

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Secrets To Attracting Hot, Younger Women Part II

Instead of doing some cheesy admissions, be cool, calm, and act as if you don’t give care too much.

Think yourself as a bullet train that runs forward at full speed.

Act as if she only has two options:

First, she can choose to ride the train and experience the ride of her life. Or, second, she can MISS the train and deny herself the chance of a lifetime. Either way, you’re not affected, because you’re already good on your own even without her.

By doing this tough approach, you will be able to know early on if she likes you on a sexual level.

You won’t have to play guessing games anymore, or wonder if she’ll sue you if you ever dare to touch her.

All you have to do is to follow a specific progression of stages and steps. Move from the initial contact, to conversation, then proceed to physical touching and so on. When you know the correct sequence, you’ll never have to guess whether she likes you or not.

You’ll be aware of how to read a woman’s body language signals. Your words, techniques, and moves will gradually lead her to say “Yes”, instead of her finding EXCUSES to not get involved with you.

Negate the physical barriers between the two of you and try to make body contact with the woman. The perfect time to do this is when you’re both bursting in laughter.

When she least expects it, give her knee a soft tap or touch. When you do a high-five, wrap your fingers around her for a split second. Usually, she will get confused with that signal, and she will experience an emotional spark. Just when she thought you are interested in her, you move your hands away from her and act as if you don’t care and nothing happened.

Continues Tomorrow…

Secrets To Attracting Hot, Younger Women Part I

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Secrets To Attracting Hot, Younger Women Part I

“Is he really interested me, or he’s just playing a game…the same way he does to other women?”

This is the line of thought that should run through a girl’s mind each time you’re flirting with her. It raises her level of desire to keep pushing things to the next level.

When she’s dealing a guy who sparks those kinds of thoughts in her mind, she’ll feel challenged to “perform” well, act in the sexiest way possible, just to get the complete approval she think she deserves.

The key, though, is to NEVER give 100% approval and confirmation that you have “feelings” for her. I’ll explain:

When a girl is interested in you, she’ll exhaust all means in order to discover if you feel the same way for her. This is because she feels that getting a guy to like her so bad is some sort of “success”.

You can actually drive women crazy, by never showing that you like them. This way, she’ll be challenged to keep working and working to gain your affection and attention.

This is the main reason why you should NEVER confess to a woman how badly you are attracted her, or admit how desperate you are to be her boyfriend (in fact, don’t be desperate at all). Stop cheesy lines and avoid insinuating that you two are “perfect” for each other.

I know that those things above sound romantic to guys, but in truth, hot women are usually turned off with them. I suggest  that you stop watching mushy Hollywood films and get back to the real world.

In movies, a geek introverted guy can attract the most popular hot girl in school…all because of him making a sudden romantic admission of his feelings. But it only happens in movies (rarely in real life).

In the real world, making a grand confession and admission of your “feelings” during the flirting/early-dating stage will be seen by the girl as a weakness in your personality.

Ninety percent of the time, admitting your feelings won’t urge the hot girl to tell you that she loves you too. In fact, she might get turned off! Chances are, she will begin to see you as a typical guy who can’t control his feelings and is desperately in love with her. For some reason, there’s no more challenge attached to you anymore, because she feels she’s already “won”.

Continued Tomorrow…

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