Why You Shouldn’t Stress So Much Over a First Date

You went out one night with your girlfriends and met this really handsome guy. You chatted a bit, and just before you left he asked you for your number. A few days later, he calls and asks you on a date. You say yes, naturally. But all of a sudden you’re a nervous wreck. This guy was really cute and seemed really nice – you don’t want to screw it up! Now an event that’s supposed to be fun has become totally stressful for you. Why do first dates have to be so nerve-wracking?

The answer is: they don’t. First dates shouldn’t be stressful, they should be comfortable and fun. Will you have a few butterflies in your stomach? Of course. But if you’re so stressed out that you almost want to call and cancel, it’s a bad sign. You should never stress so much over a first date, and here’s why.
He Already Likes You

If a guy asks you out on a date, it means he likes you. He might not know a whole lot about you, but what he does know and see he likes. You already have a leg-up. He sees something in you already, and all you have to do is continue to be yourself.

It’s Not as Important as You Think It Is

First dates are important, yes, but they aren’t as important as you think they are. Everyone gets nervous on first dates, and they rarely ever go perfectly. You can’t expect instant shooting stars; you just have to work on building some kind of connection. If he likes you, he won’t hold it against you that you used the wrong fork or said the wrong thing. The second and third dates are more important ones.

No One Else is Going to Care

If you do something embarrassing on a first date, in most cases no one else is ever going to find out unless you tell them. The people who really matter to you – your friends, family, coworkers – they aren’t going to be judging your first date performance. If it doesn’t go so well, you can move on and forget about it.

If It Doesn’t Work Out, So What?

When you’re getting so stressed out about one first date, what are you worried about? That it won’t work out? If it doesn’t work out, so what? That guy was just one guy, and he obviously wasn’t the one for you. It’s better to find out now rather than later. There are so many other fish in the sea, as they say, and you can just go on another first date with someone else.
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Here’s the bottom line – first dates are not worth stressing over. You are nervous, but he’s probably a little nervous, too. First dates usually don’t go as well as planned, and it would be weird if you didn’t have at least one awkward moment. Don’t let your stress get in the way of you having fun and getting to know someone new. Just relax and enjoy yourself. If things don’t go well, no big deal – just don’t have a second date.

Michelle Leigh is a self described fashionista who often blog and covers a broad range of topics from relationship advice to cosmetic brushes and style.

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What to Wear Out on a Date

What to Wear on a Date

When you are going on a date, you want to make the right first impression, especially if you want to enter into a long-term relationship with someone.

You want to show them all that’s good about you, from your appearance to your personality.

Although the majority of people say that, when dating, personality comes first; looks also play a big part in determining what someone thinks of you.

So, if you are going on a first date, you’ll want to look smart. But what are the right clothes to wear for such an occasion?

  • Perhaps the safest bet is to follow a smart casual code. For men, this usually means wearing a buttoned shirt, smart jeans, shoes and a belt.
    Basically, it is a halfway house between wearing a suit and casual clothes. This is ideal if you’re going to a bar or café to meet for the first time.
    As for women, whatever works for you in terms of being smart casual is usually the way to go. Perhaps a skirt and blouse something that you may wear to work or a nicely shaped dress.
  • If you are going somewhere like the theatre, an art exhibition or to an expensive restaurant, formal clothes such as a suit might be just the thing to wear. That way, you’ll fit in and at the same time show whoever you’re meeting that you’re serious about wanting to make an impression.
    For women wearing smarter clothes for these occasions is a must, but something that you will be comfortable sitting in for a longer period of time.
  • What you wear depends on more than just the setting. Whether you’re meeting singles in Leeds, Manchester, London or somewhere a little further afield, you might want to consider what to wear according to the time of year.
    For example, if your date is during the summer and you’re meeting in a park, perhaps a short-sleeved shirt could be the thing to wear. Meanwhile, in winter, the best thing to do would be to make sure that you have a coat.
  • If you’re on the third or fourth date with the same person, you might feel inclined to wear more casual clothes. Particularly if the place you’re meeting them isn’t too upmarket.
    This will show that you’re more comfortable in their presence, and that you’re ready to make a commitment.
    Dressing in formal or semi-formal clothes may give off a message that you’re not too comfortable and that you’re a little on the serious side.

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Whatever you decide to wear on your date matters, as long as you are comfortable and happy with yourself then this will reflect on your date.

An expert in both dating and relationships, Lara de Souza works with a number of dating websites including Datingagency on knowing what will work when people meet for the first time looking for love and companionship.

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