Tips for Creating a Persuasive Dating Profile for Match.com and Other Dating Services

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So you want to find a way to spice up your dating life or finally meet your soul mate, and you decide to try online dating. You sign up for Match.com, and you are immediately faced with an obstacle standing in your way of true happiness. You have to create your profile. What you write in your profile can mean the difference between great success and utter failure. It’s how you will represent yourself to everyone else, how you will be judged. It’s the new first impression.

Thousands of people have decided to try online dating, and many have had a good experience with it. Match.com is one website that is particularly popular and claims to be one of the most reliable websites to aid you in your dating search. It has even boasted a guarantee that you will find someone, or your subscription money back. If you’re going to pay to find love, you want to give yourself the best chance possible. To do this, you need to know how to write a very effective and persuasive profile. You might be the best catch out there, but if your profile isn’t up to par, no one will want to find out. Here are some tips for creating your Match.com profile.

Be Honest

Start by being honest about yourself. Don’t lie about anything unless you want to get caught later and suffer the embarrassment of having to explain yourself. Start things off with an untruth and you’ve set the tone for the whole relationship, and most likely the person you were interested in won’t stick around. But don’t be brutally honest, either. Everyone has certain things about themselves or their lives that may be difficult or unappealing, and those things will probably need to come to light eventually, but not off the bat.

Don’t Be Generic

Don’t just say you are “cute, smart, kind, and funny.” Sure those are great qualities, but that’s what everyone claims, and those adjectives don’t really mean anything concrete. Try to offer anecdotes that exemplify those qualities. If you volunteer at an animal shelter, say so. You won’t have to say you’re a nice person, too, because that will (hopefully) be obvious.

Try to Rule of Five

When trying to decide what to include in your profile, try to expand upon the five things you think are most important about you. You don’t want to go on and on forever about yourself, and you don’t want to include such little information that you seem boring. Five is a good number of things to focus on. Mention as many things about you that you want to, but really explain only five.

Spell Check

You may be a great person, but if your profile is full of spelling errors you will turn a lot of people off and risk seeming unintelligent. It’s a good idea to run a spell or grammar checker before you publish your profile. If your profile is hard to read, no one will waste time trying to decipher it, so make sure your profile is your best work.

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Meaningful Ways to Revitalize your Relationship

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Want to keep the excitement alive? Here are some tips to guarantee many more years on the journey of love.

Crack open the Songs of Solomon!

Song of Solomon 1:2
“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine.”

There is no better example of the power of love than this often over-looked book of the bible. Rich in romantic scripture and sincere sentiment, the Songs of Solomon is a written expression of how much Christ loves us, the church. Reading the scriptures out loud while snuggling with your loved one, or including a favorite passage in a handwritten letter can remind even the most unmindful to appreciate the unequaled gift of true love.

Find a quiet place to reconnect.

We all remember a special space, at one time or another, where we enjoyed a sense of peace and protection. Whether it was a secluded spot in the woods, or underneath the covers with a flashlight and favorite novel, many of these times still prove to be some of the most memorable. Maybe you can think back to a place that was meaningful to you, or better yet- to both of you. Suggest taking a walk with your loved one, or venturing on a day trip to a location you both remember from earlier days. It might sound sickeningly cliche, but the benefits of enjoying time away from everyday distractions should never be underestimated.

Never stay satisfied with mediocrity.

Nehemiah 2:2
“Why does your face look so sad when you are not ill? This can be nothing but sadness of heart?”

Just as God pushed Nehemiah to repair the walls of Jerusalem, he too stirs our heart to stay strong and begin the process of rebuilding. All of us experience great sadness and face challenges at some point in our lifetime. It is easy to fall into the trap of self-pity during tough times. However, the duty to fight for your marriage or relationship should always be of prime importance. Allow hurt emotions to heal, forgive and then forgive again. Through self-exploration strive to compare your shortcomings with those of your loved one. If you desire to revitalize your relationship, you will do so. This encouragement and insight will not go unnoticed by your partner.

The Power of a Compliment.

Mark Twain
“I can live for two months on a good compliment.”

The desire for sincere compliments surfaces many times throughout one’s personal life – especially when coming  from those who matter most. In the stressful world of work, kids, and commitments, giving a compliment can be the last thing on one’s mind. However, the power of a compliment has been attributed to longer marriages, better self esteem, and even longer life expectancy. Just as children strive to make their parents proud, adults too look for the approval of their partner. So take a second to make someone else feel good. You never know the positive repercussions that might surface as a result.

Who said working on a relationship required money or long periods of time? It could just take a moment to remember what’s important in life. Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment. Sounds like a lasting recipe to me.

Frank Anderson is a family and frugality writer.  He also works with virtual web hosting technologies.

Wanna Go On a Date? 8 Cheap College Date Ideas

Single Parent Dating

College is a great time to get to know people. It is also a time when there may be a lot of courting going on. And when I mean courting, I mean going on dates. Sometimes, college students don’t want to date because they think it is too expensive. This may because they don’t want to take the effort to go out and see what there is. There are actually a lot of things to do for free―and they can be dates too. If you don’t want to spend anymore lonely Friday nights claiming that you are studying when you are really watching Japanese anime, here are 8 cheap college dates. Get your courage up and ask that special girl, or boy out for a fun Friday night!

1) Cook Together

This can be one of the best dates for college students. Often, many students don’t have time, or energy to make a proper meal. Most are dashing in and out of apartments with snacks in their hands. Planning a meal where you go shopping together can be fun―and cheap. Good meals to make can be pizzas and Italian food.

2) Picnic in the Park

You can pack up a lunch and go to a park. There are usually a lot of elementary schools around a college town. Just pick one! This can be fun because you can really get to know each other. Just don’t forget to bring a blanket, you don’t want to be sitting on wet grass!

3) Visit Local Museums

There are many local museums that offer discounted or are free for college students. This is a great way to get to know your date―and be more cultured!

4) Go on a Hike

Depending on where your college is, there are usually plenty of places to go on a hike. You could hike at night and see the town from above. Or you could make it an all day date. Just don’t forget to bring your trail mix―you’ll probably want something to snack on.

5) Culture Dates

This is where you find out what is going on in the town around you. Many college towns offer lots of activities that are free to the public. There are lots of Farmer’s markets, festivals and other activities. Just keep your eyes out for something that you find interesting.

6) Camera Shoot

You can take your little point and shoot camera, or even your phone and go around campus (or the town) taking pictures. Some people make this a group date and have a scavenger photo hunt.

7) Tandem Bikes

Tandem bikes are usually pretty inexpensive to rent. This is a fun date when the weather is nice out. You will learn team work with your partner―and you will probably enjoy some great laughs at each others expense.

8 ) Second Hand Clothing Stores

You can find clothes for each other to wear at second hand clothing stores! You can also dress each other up in funny clothes and take pictures. This is a good date for some laughs.

These cheap date ideas will ensure that you have fun with a special someone. Your wallet will also be just as happy. When it comes to cheap dates, you just have to take a little more time and creativity to come up with something to do. It allows you to be more creative, cheaper dates will allow you to get to better know your date. Stop moping around on the weekends and get yourself a date!

About the Author

Neltje Maynez is a freelance author for MyCollegesandCareers.com. My Colleges and Careers can help people to find the best online colleges to fit their needs.

Love: Do You Believe In the Soul Mate?

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The soul mate is said to be a person who is meant to be with another person. Their souls are somehow connected and fate has it that these two people are destined to be together. Sometimes these soul mates are not aware of who their mates are, so they go through life getting into other relationships thinking that they are happy. It is said that no relationship that is not with one’s soul mate will last. Even if it does survive for a long time, there will always be a longing for something more. This longing for something more is simply a long for the person that is meant to be with someone.

Not everyone believes in the idea of soul mates. However, psychics are rumored to have the ability to be able to get in touch with another person’s soul mate. If the concept of the soul mate were not believable, there would not be this many people practicing the art of keeping in touch with them. There has to be some kind of truth to the theory, and perhaps this truth can be tested and found in a clairvoyant fashion.

Different Psychic Connections

The psychic can make a connection with a person’s soul mate in several different ways. One way is by first making a connection with that person. Every human being possesses an energy that surrounds him or her. Psychics are able to use this energy to find out detailed information about who that person is. If the energy is strong enough the psychic may also be able to make a connection with the soul mate and pick up various descriptive information about who he or she is. He or she may be able to see the color of his eyes, how the two people will meet, or even if they are already together.

Medium readings are another way that a psychic could be able to find information on a person’s soul mate. Medium psychics are people who can communicate with the spirits. They have certain abilities that allow them to enter another dimension and see things that the average eye can not see. Some mediums are able to look into the future. A psychic of this type could be utilized to find out if a person will meet his or her soul mate. Spirits of lost relatives may also have this information for the seeker.

Finally a tarot reading may give a clear presentation of loves to come. Tarot reading is the process of using a deck of special cards to give information about a person’s love life, fortune, fame, and lifeline. Only certain psychics have the ability to read these special cards.

There are varying views on whether the soul mate exists and multiple ways of finding out whether there is any validity to the theory. Perhaps a person who does not fully believe should have a meeting with a person with these special abilities and see what the two of them can come up with.

Sandra, aspiring author from England and consultant for link building service

How to Play Hard to Get

Christian Singles

Playing hard to get may seem like a lost art in today’s dating world where it is accepted as normal for women to take the reigns in intimate relationships. This development has seen women in turn pursuing men as opposed to being pursued by men. This cultural shift has led to what many see as a phenomenon. Some women even propose marriage to their partners. Nevertheless studies assert that men are natural born hunters and so they enjoy a good game of pursuing a woman he has deemed worthy of his affections. As such, while one is not suggesting that women have to be prudish and hard heartened, a well played deck of hard to get cards can lead to a man become even more enthralled with the woman he desires to possess. Playing hard to get can add fire and fun to the dating scene and making it a little more interesting. Putting hard to get techniques into practices however is not as unattainable as some may think. It may simply be a matter of reading well into the dating game, having a basic understanding of the psychology of men and holding back a little. The most important part of a successful game of hard to get is that of mystery. Here is how to capture some of that mystery.

  1. The first step in playing hard to get is showing an interest in the other person without appearing to be too eager. This can be done by laughing at jokes, asking and responding to open ended questions and showing positive body language signals such as looking the person in the face/eyes when listening or responding during conversation. The trick here is to appear interested and polite without appearing desperate or needy.
  2. Do not reveal too much about oneself. One trick to playing hard to get, is to not give off enough information about oneself. This is especially true in the early stages of the dating game. Be receptive but remember there will be plenty of time to get to learn more about each other. As such everything, such as the most personal and intimate details of one’s life need not be mentioned.
  3. Keep an active schedule. Remember even though one is dating a person of interest, one does not need to rearrange one’s entire schedule in the hopes that spending time with this new prospect will fill it. Continue to enjoy the activities that one previously did as this will make one appear more purposeful in one’s own life. This will allow the other person to really endeavour to get and keep one’s attention. This will give the impression that one has a life of one’s own and as such one’s attention is hard to come by.

Tips and Warnings

  • Although playing hard to get is generally used by women to attract men. Both men and women can put the principles of playing hard to get into practice. However, if both persons are playing hard to get, it can become a frustrating situation where both parties seem to be getting nowhere.
  • It is assumed before playing hard to get that the persons involved are at the very least dating and are interested in further intimacy.
  • There is a fine line between being hard to get and being seen as unavailable. Persons should tread this line very carefully so as to not cause the other party to lose interest in the prospects of furthering relations.

Leslie O’Neill writes Dating Tips for Guys and Dating Tips for Girls.

Technology and Dating

Single Parent Dating

Technology and Dating Part 1: To Text or Not to Text

I highly doubt that anyone under the age of 25 has ever received a love letter unless it was one of those cheesy grade school love notes that said something to the effect of, “Will you go out with me? Check Yes or No”. And even these are becoming obsolete as children are getting their first cell phones at a younger age. Technology has completely destroyed the delicate tradition of pen and paper romance. Yet there are still many advantages to using technology in the “wooing” process. In this three-part article, we’ll discus the pros and cons of texting, instant messaging, emailing, video chatting and social networking when it comes to modern dating techniques.

Like most other things in our world today, the pace of dating and relationships has picked up. Gone are the days of “courting” for two years before proposing and then waiting yet another year to get married. Either people are too busy to even consider marriage, or they jump in too quickly so that dating and marriage matches the pace of the rest of their super-speed lives. Technology is to blame for both of these conditions. So how can you properly use technology, without letting it control you, when it comes to dating?

First, let’s attempt to conquer the texting monster. Regular phone calls are nearly obsolete. In the olden days, the guy would call up the girl, ask her how she was, and see if she would be available to go out to a show the next weekend. He would give her at least a few days notice and anxiously await his date all week long. Nowadays, there is no courtesy call, just a few lines of a text message saying, “going to the movies, want to come?” Not very romantic, is it? For an already-established dating relationship, this wouldn’t as heinous of a crime, but for first dates and new relationships, texts should be handled with care. And once in a while, they should be foregone completely in lieu of making a formal invitation by means of an actual phone call. Taking time out of your busy schedule to make the call will be more demonstrative of your interest than sending a text between stopping at red lights on your way to work.

There are two main benefits to texting, however. First, texting allows you to quickly and concisely confirm plans. Phone calls can be awkward when you have to go through all of the formalities, just to confirm a date. Second, texting allows the guy to send the follow-up text. It has quickly become the standard practice for guys to send a “Thanks for the date tonight” text once he’s dropped the girl off. The follow-up text can mean the difference between never seeing someone again and a second date. It has become so common nowadays, that if a girl doesn’t receive the text, she can safely assume that the guy didn’t have much interest.

Stay tuned for the next part of this article when we’ll discuss instant messaging, email and video chatting, all of which play integral roles in the modern-age of dating!

 

Technology and Dating Part 2: Instant Messaging, Email, and Video Chats

Last article we talked about text messaging and dating. In this second part, we will address the implications of instant messaging, emailing, and video chatting in your love life. For the most part, they can help the dating process progress, so long as they aren’t used in lieu of actual face-to-face time.

I think I would have to offer my biased opinion that instant messaging and emailing are definitely a step up from text messaging. I would much rather be asked out on a date through a messaging service then a 160-character or less text message. On the other hand, instant messaging and video chatting are great ways to communicate with someone you have interest in. And they are especially handy if you don’t live close to your significant other.

Emails can be an excellent source of communication in dating. If you are away on vacation and don’t have time to call, you may at least be abel to send a quick email. Or perhaps you don’t want to disturb someone during their work or school day by sending a text message, but you just have the urge to communicate with them—send an email instead. And honestly, with Smartphones and iPhones being used by pretty much everyone now, emails appear just as quickly as a text message, just without causing your butt to vibrate.

There is a second benefit to sending an email that I want to address. If you have a particularly sensitive issue to discuss with your love interest/significant other, send it through an email. Often these sensitive items are hard to discuss in person if you don’t know someone very well yet. They are usually too important for a text or instant message conversation because you want to really think about your wording and its possible effect on the other person. By sending an email, you will have all the time you need to compose your message, as well as giving the other person time to think about their response and respond in like manner.

Video chatting is probably the most invasive form of technological communication because it allows the other person to see your face, and even surroundings, while you talk. Basically, video chatting is like a high-class phone call. The only thing it lacks is physical proximity, a very important factor in most relationships. However, it can serve many useful purposes as you work to connect with your significant other while one or the other of you is at a distance greater than is possible to be travelled in the moment.

Instant messaging, email and video chat can be great for more formal and serious conversations. Asking someone out through one of these mediums would be very acceptable in today’s highly-technological world. In Part 3 of this article we’ll discuss the influence of Facebook and other social media on the dating scene. What’s acceptable and what’s not when it comes to sharing your relationship to all your friends and family?

 

Technology and Dating Part 3: Facebook—Stalking, Flirting and Becoming Facebook Official

We know from the previous two parts of this article that texting, instant messaging, emailing and video chatting, as concerns dating, are becoming nearly inseparable. But there is one other factor of dating and relationships that is becoming an issue among daters: Facebook. More than one relationship has been started, or even ended, because of Facebook.

Let’s first address the issue of the Facebook stalker. I think we can all safely admit that we are Facebook stalkers. And while it’s fun to use the word “stalker” it’s really not stalking if people, of their own free will and choice, decide to post public pictures of themselves doing something embarrassing or cuddling with an ex-partner. If they don’t want people to know, then they shouldn’t post it. Thus, feel free to Facebook stalk as much as you want.

Facebook stalking can help in many ways with dating. First, it can tell you if someone you’re interested in is single or not. This can be tricky sometimes since many people choose not to post an official relationship status, which we will discuss further below. However, if you take a quick browse through their picture collection you maybe be able to discern if there is a “special someone” in their life. You will also be able to learn about their hobbies, interests, favorite movies, and how they interact with their friends and family. Some of these things can be important to know before starting a relationship, and especially as you continue to develop one. Facebook can be a powerful tool in progressing a relationship.

Facebook flirting is also immensely useful if you are too shy to talk to someone in person. Just as we discussed with instant messaging and texting, it can allow the shy person to finally ask you out, or to at least make an attempt at flirting. While flirting face-to-face is clearly the best option, for some people it may take a little warming up through technological mediums before they can advance to the major league of real-life flirting. I think it’s safe to say that Facebook is an important dating tool for the current generation. And I suppose that Twitter can also be considered right up there with Facebook when it comes to dating, even though I’m not much of a subscriber to the constant flow of useless tweets.

Now let’s address the issue of the Facebook relationship status. The significance of the modern-day adage, “Facebook official” is understood by even older generations. When a couple is Facebook official it means they are willing to let the world know of their “love”. Many concerns arise as to when to make a relationship Facebook official. People who wear their heart on their sleeve and tend to be more romantic want to shout it from the rooftops that they are now in a relationship. Depending on their partner, this may be successful or not. Some people want to make sure a relationship is firmly in place before they publish it on the world-wide web. Others don’t want it published until they are engaged or married. Before making anything “Facebook official”, you would be wise to consult with the other party involved.

All in all, technology has streamlined the dating process by allowing you to get to know another person on “paper” before you know them in reality. However, technology can never replace spending quality time with the object of your affection. Don’t let Facebook, or any technology for that matter, keep you from going out and doing real activities with a person. That is by far the best way to truly get to know someone. And you know what? There’s also nothing wrong with going a bit old-fashioned and writing a hand-written note or letter to someone. They will find it all the more valuable because of its rarity.

About the Author

Tiffani Azani is a freelance writer for MyCollegesandCareers.com. My Colleges and Careers helps prospective students find online degree programs that will prepare them to work in some of the top jobs available right now.

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