In modern society the world has placed a large emphasis on love. The media and ancient traditions have gently cultured us into believing our life goals should be focused on finding our soul mates and settling down. This is great for those who have found ‘the one’ and spend their lives indulging in Valentine’s Day and cosy weekends, but not all of us are that lucky in love.
If you’ve reached ‘the age’ with no ring on your finger or children at home, don’t avoid answering questions regarding your love life whilst desperately chasing your happily ever after. Simply tell them that there’s too much you’ve got to do before you start all that settling down malarkey.
Whether you’ve just left a long term relationship, are waiting to find that perfect someone, or you just don’t believe in fairy tales, there are plenty of things you can get your teeth into before walking up the aisle.
To prove it, here are a few ideas to get you started…
Make time for friends
Okay so you probably do make time for them when you’re in a relationship too, but it’s very common for your focus to change when you’re in love. Try and do the things that you probably couldn’t in a relationship such as going away for a weekend, partying until dawn, or even trying a bit of fancy dress. Remember there’s no one to tell you what not to do, or chasing up where you are, so enjoy the freedom, rebuild your friendships and remind them of your fun side.
Go on holiday (alone)
However scary it may seem, traveling whilst you’re single doesn’t mean spending your days going crazy on a remote island, like a scene from Cast away. There are plenty of travel companies offering single holidays with the benefits of group travel. This means you can meet up with other solo travelers on your trip whenever you like.
Step out of your comfort zone and visit places you’d never dream of going normally. You could go camping in New York, have fun in Las Vegas or see the sights in San Francisco. The opportunities are endless and you may even find your soul mate in the process.
Focus on your career
Now’s the time to do something you’ve always wanted to. You’re free to dedicate long hours, work on the weekends, take an evening course, or even get involved in some volunteering. Whatever you choose to do, you have the chance to work at being successful.
Feeling success will have a huge impact on your confidence and happiness which will in turn also affect your approach to relationships and finding that special someone.
Spend time with yourself
Only when you truly understand yourself will you begin to know what you want in life and from a potential partner. Being single allows you to explore your ambitions, what you enjoy and don’t enjoy doing and also teaches you how to forget about what other people think.
You can rest your happiness and self-esteem on yourself and with only you to care about, it’s time to take advantage and savour your singleness.
Do something that may otherwise need negotiating
That doesn’t mean rushing out and buying a Ferrari or spending thousands on a new pair of shoes. But buying a pet that you’ve always wanted, or focusing on your fitness with a few extra hours at the gym wouldn’t hurt, would it?
Have fun, keep your mind active and don’t worry about being single. Embrace it instead.
Hey, I’m Dave and I’ve been a single traveler for 3 years
- How to Be Romantic (singleonlinedating.org)
- For the Girls: World’s Top Locations to Find a Man! (travel.topbidswipe.com)
Flying Solo: 5 Things to do For Not so Desperate Singletons by Steve