Ever noticed the ‘natural leaders’ and decision makers at the office? What’s their common denominator? Simple. Their level of self-confidence is quite high.
People with a high level of confidence are often referred to as the ‘Alphas’ (derived from the alpha male behavior of male dominant animals in herds). These alpha personalities generally attract a lot of attention from the opposite sex. Females are instinctively attracted to alphas because of their dominant behavior in important aspects such as decision making and being natural leaders.
Another way of putting it is that these alphas have developed their self-esteem to a point where their aura and happiness output is very influential to others. Their self-assurance makes them natural magnets for other singles, especially those seeking life partners.
In truth, there is nothing really scientific or biological in building up your own self-confidence. As the saying goes, it’s all in the mind. You can build up your self-esteem by simply believing in your own abilities, no matter how big or small or even limited. Just because you’re a carpenter doesn’t mean you can’t have as much confidence as a business executive. Building cabinets and houses is a whole different ball game from sitting at a desk in front of a PC all day.
Study and analyse the good qualities of famous or successful people and you will see that, like you, they had to start from scratch in terms of character building. But, once they got rolling, nothing in the world could stop them. Use this as your inspiration and launching pad.
One method that always works is to dress right and dress for success. Everyone looks up to people who dress right because dressing well exudes confidence. Present yourself with dignity and confidence and soon you will see that the people around you will respond in kind. Show yourself as a positive individual who knows what direction to take in life, especially at work.
If you are not sure about your wardrobe, ask advice from a fashion guru (better for you if he or she is your friend) or from successful family and friends. Let their success and dress code rub off on you.
And while you are developing your wardrobe and building up your confidence, you can start searching for other singles online, the online dating scene is a terrific outlet to a huge pool of single people where you can practice exuding your improved confidence level.
Regardless you prefer to take your love hunt offline or online the same principles apply, success in meeting new people comes down to self image and self confidence and only you have the power to make it happen. So get out there and start being proactive.
- Online Dating Tips You Should Know (singleonlinedating.org)
- Online dating tips for women, before and after you create a profile (singleonlinedating.org)
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