Is Your Partner Cheating? How to Catch Them Red Handed

In my experience being cheated on is one of the worst psychological pains that a person can suffer. Of course the loss of someone close is more serious, but in some cases an unfaithful partner can cause just as much if not more heartache. Not only are you and your partner likely to go your separate ways, but you get that sense of worthlessness and inadequacy that can only come with someone who previously loved you and cherished every moment you were together making the conscious decision to end the relationship.

For this reason, infidelity is, in my opinion, an unforgivable sin, and one that should not so much be punished as exposed. They say revenge is a dish best served cold but when it comes to a partner being unfaithful I’d make an exception and say that this delicious dish should be served piping hot with a side of embarrassment and regret. If you suspect your partner is cheating, what better way to out them than just before Valentine’s day? This way you won’t have to go through the soppy, meaningless rigmarole of buying flowers and cards.

So how exactly can you catch your partner out without being accused of breaking and entering, trespassing or, any crime that may backfire and make you look insecure and perverse? You may be surprised to learn that there are a wide range of gadgets and gizmos out there to assist you in gathering evidence to convict your partner for breaking one of the ten sacred commandments.

If your mind is constantly consumed by worry and you feel anxious about where your partner says they are going when they leave the house, simply attach a GPS tracking device to their clothes. These are small in size, lightweight, discreet and can be slipped inconspicuously into a pocket or clipped on the inside of a garment. Data of their location can be sent directly to your phone on demand with a simple text or phone call.

Think a GPS trackers is going a bit too far? Maybe your partner is being a little more covert about their extra curricular activities. If you think this the case then perhaps you’d be interested to see all the data they’ve deleted on their iPhone. Recovery sticks are available which can be plugged into a computer along with the phone, these can retrieve any data they thought had gone forever…

Maybe you suspect your partner is doing the dirty in your own home when you’re at work. No problem, simply invest in a mains wall charger will a built in video camera and microphone. This innocent looking black cube simply plugs into the wall, they’ll never even notice it’s there…

You shouldn’t need to go to such lengths to find out if your partner is really as faithful as they claim, but if you do suspect they are doing the deed behind your back and you are consumed by worry, then using one of these innovative products to find out for sure will certainly be the investment, just to put your mind at ease, and if you desire, exact your sweet revenge…

Joe is a relationship expert who has used Spy Gadgets to his advantage many times in the past… You can follow him on Twitter @joe__johnson__

Valentines First Date Tips for Guys

That time of year is fast approaching that us singletons dread – Valentines Day. Every year on the 14th of February love birds across the nation suddenly switch to some kind of altered state of sappiness and any respect you once had for them flies out the window as they turn their attentions to writing slushy, clichéd, poetry in cards the size of a small bungalow in the shape of a fluffy teddy bear. OK, maybe I’m a tad bitter, at least I used to be until I found a sure fire way of landing that hot date on Valentines Day that means you’re not stuck indoors on your own like the proverbial lemon.

Snaring the Date

The first stage is getting a date, even if you hate dates and have had bad experiences in the past, it’s better to at least make an attempt than be stuck indoors watching Emmerdale farm while your buddies gaze lovingly across a candlelit table into the eyes of their partners. So how do win a date with a hot chick?

First, rest assured that the majority of single women are feeling the same sort of anxieties as you as valentines day approaches, they don’t want to be on their own while their friends are off having fun. But how you find these single women? The best avenue for finding a potential date I’ve found is through friends, one of your friends or even friend of friends is bound to know a girl in the same situation as you.

Arrange to all go out as a group and get your friends to introduce you to each other on what is essentially neutral ground, take it from here. By all means utilize a touch of Dutch courage if you need to but don’t go overboard and make a total fool of yourself.

If meeting someone in real life simply isn’t an option, use the tried and tested medium of the internet. Looking for love online is no longer a taboo, whether it be through Facebook or a specialist dating site. In fact most of my friends who have girlfriends met them through Facebook.

The Date Itself

OK so you’ve managed to convince an unwitting female to go on a date with you, so how do you get through those desperately awkward first few hours unscathed? It’s true that dates can be initially uncomfortable, but your role, as the guy is to try and break that ice and make you both feel relaxed.

Even if you already know your date, seeing each other in a romantic capacity can make it feel like it’s the first time you’ve met, If this is the case talk about the past and memorable experiences that you’ve shared, or mutual friends that you have, this will help create a bond early on.

If indeed you are seeing your date for the first time ever then things may be a little more tricky. Remember to ask her questions about herself, this will show that you are interested in her as a person and want to get to know her. If you are nervous, don’t show it, a lack of confidence is a big turn off for women, simply act confident and you will come across with vigor and bravado.

In terms of location, pick a venue that is fairly quiet and unlikely to intrude on your conversation, i.e. not the cinema! A restaurant may be an obvious choice but there is a reason, it provides the ideal setting for you to get know each other and relax without too many distractions.

Saying Goodbye… Or not

Ending the date can be a stumbling block for so many guys. The trick is not to go into all guns blazing, make sure she gets home safely and walk her to the door. There is no real script to follow here, you should know if she is into or not by the visual signals she is giving off. Here’s a hint, if she turns her back on you and heads straight into the door, don’t go in for the kiss, the date hasn’t gone well!

Joe is an online dating guru currently working for a personal car leasing firm.

Conversations for the Second Date

The second date is a critical time in any new relationship. The first date may not have involved much talking and chances are you did not get to know each other as much as you would have liked. For the relationship to progress, there are questions that should be asked to help you figure out what type of future you may have with this person.

Find out what are the person’s interests. There may be some common ground that you both share and this can serve as a foundation to build on the relationship. You may speak on your likes and dislikes on many topics and find his/her opinion on these subjects. There are many things to talk about, just choose one and learn what the other person thinks about it. These may include questions such as what do you like to do in your spare time or do you like to watch sports.

You may also ask questions about the person’s past. When treading on this territory, exercise special care in the delivery of your inquiries. Certain discussions may bring up hurtful memories from the past. Focus on happy themes and the person’s favorite foods that he/she enjoyed eating while growing up. This will lighten the mood and allow you to become better acquainted with your date.

As you continue conversing, it is very important to raise the subject of what your partner looks for in a relationship. This will provide you with a window to your date’s soul and showcase the qualities that characterize that person.

At this point, you may delve into the personal beliefs of your date. This will give you an idea as to who you are dating. Ask the person about life changing moments and its impact on his/her life.

Having discussions about the person’s future is another ideal topic to raise during your second encounter. The fact that there is a second date indicates that the potential exists for an ongoing relationship. Their future plans will be a good way to test your compatibility. Stay away from questions such as when he/she would like to get married or how many kids he/she wants to have. Chat about each other’s dreams, goals and aspirations. You do not want to scare your date away with too many intrusive questions. Bear in mind that it is only a second date, so keep your dialogue limited to more introspective topics.

When going out with a person for the second time, such an encounter should not be primarily about interrogation. Your date should not face a barrage of questions. Instead he/she should be engaged in active, stimulating conversation that will eventually answer all your questions. The discussion should feel natural and be engaging. Look your date in the eyes when he/she is responding. This shows your interest in the dialogue. Maintaining a relaxed and balanced state of mind will grant you a successful second date. Once everything goes well, there will be many more dates in the future.

Haliyma Barrow holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Spanish and a minor in journalism from Indiana University of Pennsylvania, and a Master of Public Administration from New York University. Barrow regularly contributes articles at online writing sites such as EduBook, EzineArticles and Screen Junkies, with focus on dating related topics.