The pressure felt when dating can be daunting for any man, whether he’s a regular at a singles bar or he’s fresh out of a committed relationship and new on the market. This pressure comes from the way we feel we must present ourselves, to the way we talk to and how to treat our female counterparts during courting. Here are a few examples on what to do (and what not to do) when making the first move.
The Pick Up- For a woman you have just met or would like to meet.
Body language is a large part of how singles interact with each other, even before they have spoken. As men, once we learn to decode these signals and how to give our own, we can know more about how a woman views us. Direct eye contact, touching her face or a man and leaning in toward a man are ways that women show they are interested. Once you’ve made eye contact with a woman, hold it there to show that you are also interested. When speaking, face a woman directly and pay close attention to her body language. She’ll let you know when she is ready to let you get close. Becoming a pick up artist isn’t just luck or natural talent. It involves learning to be aware of the signals and practice.
The Move In- For a woman that you already know, and would like to know better.
Setting up a date with this woman that allows you to converse in a casual atmosphere will allow you to show your interest, without putting the added pressure of a typical ‘let’s impress each other’ first date. When putting the moves on this girl, timing is crucial. After all, there is probably a reason, like a previous boyfriend or work conflict, which kept you from approaching her in this way before. Choose your moment carefully. The art of seduction requires timing, training, and practice to be consistently successful. Part of picking the right moment is also about learning how to go for what you want, and stop hesitating.
The Next Level- For a woman you already know quite well.
This next scenario can go one of three ways. If all goes in your favor, she will come running into your arms. However, it is possible that she could be flattered but not want to jeopardize your friendship or reject the idea completely and feel uncomfortable around you. To avoid awkwardness, start by being open and honest about your feelings. It may sound silly, but she will still respect you, even if the feelings aren’t mutual. If she is open to exploring a relationship, take your time when making the first move to ensure that the transition from friends to something more meaningful is smooth for both sides.
Once you have assessed the situation and made the first move, things get a little easier. The key to making that first move is not to rush blindly into any situation. If you look before you jump you’ll both have a better idea of what you’re getting into, and you’ll be more at ease with one another in the long run.
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