Is Your Family Against Your New Relationship? Here’s How To Win Them Over

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Starting a new relationship can be one of the best times of your life, especially when you think you have found Mr. or Mrs. Right. However, when your family is against the relationship, things can stop being fun in a hurry. Assuming you’ve found the right person – and that your family doesn’t have a legitimate beef with your new partner – there are some simple things you can do to win your family over (or at least try to win them over).

Find Out Why

Open communication with your family is really the key to getting them to accept your new relationship. You need to find out exactly what their issues are, and whether or not they are founded on reality. Sometimes families are incredibly difficult to please, and they will initially dislike even the nicest, most thoughtful men and women until they get to know them better. If this is your situation, all you need is time and a little communication to win them over. This also applies to winning over your friends who might object to your new relationship.

On the other hand, if you find that your family has legitimate and carefully explained concerns, you may have a tougher time getting your family to see the best aspects of your partner. Your family may have some reasonable concerns, but that doesn’t mean that your relationship isn’t worthwhile…it just means that you’re going to have to do a little work. Connect with a relationship counselor, and once you’ve completed your sessions, you and your partner should report back to your family if you want to win their approval.

It also helps to remember that your family doesn’t necessarily need to know everything. If you call your Mom or your sister to complain about something – but then don’t call them back to tell them all the great things your partner is doing – they might assume your partner is a bad match. Your family only knows what you tell them, so use discretion when you talk to them in order to avoid future problems.

Making Decisions

At the end of the day, or the end of the wedding, you are the one that is going to be spending your life with your partner. If you can’t reconcile your family’s concerns, and you’ve found a great guy or girl in your life that you don’t want to live without, your family will eventually come to terms with your relationship. Hopefully, in time they will see that you are satisfied and happy with the person you have chosen, and they will grow to love your partner as you do.

Some families are less than willing to move past old grudges. When a relationship has a lot of past drama that influences your family’s opinion, you will definitely have a more difficult time with reconciliation. You may want to have your partner speak directly to the family, to give them peace of mind that things have changed. Of course, your partners future actions will also help determine whether or not there is a change of opinion about him or her.

Finally, don’t forget that these concerns go both ways. Your family might object to your partner, but it could also be that your partner objects to your family. Everyone needs to understand that they’re all in this for you. If they love you, they need to work out their differences as best they can for your sake.

Author Jason Lancaster works with GayDatingSites.com. Be sure to check out their list of 100 hilarious pick up lines.

Accept the Situation: Advice for Moving On

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This article is specifically made for dealing with a breakup and moving on, but actually fits most of the other moving on situations. I’ve searched the web and read up on all the advice I could find for these situations. In this article I’ve gathered what I think are the best and most influential ones.

Accept the Situation

All these kinds of emotional situations start with acceptance. Think through what’s happened and try to let it go. Now is the time to occupy your mind with this, as you no longer will again.

Think Fresh

Try to empty your head of your ex girl- or boyfriend. You want to try to not think of this any more, but something completely different. Talk to someone, take a walk, or start planning the future are all good tips.

New Activities

Next up is finding some new activities. Do you have any hobbies you can spend some time with? Maybe get a new hobby? Go out running or go to the gym? There are plenty of things you can do. Be creative

Avoid

Avoid your ex at all cost. You might even want to consider deleting everything that reminds you of your ex. Maybe you have some old pictures or letters? Throw them away.

Famous Sayings and Quotes

This will probably sound silly, but reading up on some good quotes about moving on is a good way to deal with the situation. Hell, even reading some 21st birthday quotes for the humor might even be beneficial.

Stay away from drugs and alcohol. These might initially get you into a good mood, but they might also do the opposite. We advice to stay away from such substances at all cost as the situation can get much worse.

This process might seem like it never will end, but trust me it will. Within a couple of weeks, maybe even a day or two, you might start seeing the world different and with a fresh perspective.

5 Great and Inexpensive First Date Ideas

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If you’re nervous about your next date or simply out of ideas, you should be. Women have been on tens of dinner dates and want something more in a man. Online dating site MrRight.com.au shares 5 great and inexpensive first date ideas that will impress her without stretching your budget.

Candlelit dinner at home

Set the scene with a romantic candlelit dinner at yours. And if dinner requires too much preparation, try light and sensual desserts instead. Strawberries dipped in cream or chocolate fondants topped with vanilla ice cream are always a winner. The key is to keep things simple and subtle: dim the lights, light a few candles and play soft tunes in the background. The rule is to keep things simple. Don’t go overboard with a candle trail leading to your bedroom or a line-up of 100 blazing candles.

Have a cocktail face-off

Drinking cocktails is fun, but making them is even better. Entertain her with a cocktail making competition at home, or take her on a night out to a bar school. Ask her what her favourite drink is beforehand, buy the ingredients in advance and get a bucket of ice cubes – it’s as simple as that. You’ll be surprised how different yours and her cocktails will taste – seemingly small differences in ingredients and doses can trigger big differences in taste. And if making cocktails isn’t your strong point, the chance is neither of you will even notice after you’ve had a couple of drinks!

Picnic in the park

The outdoors doesn’t have to be boring. There’s so much you can do when the sun is out, whether you live in the city or the countryside. Take your date for a romantic picnic and let the surroundings win her over. Choose a place with breathtaking views, water views or running water if you can. Fountains, lakes and rivers convey a sense of tranquillity.

Spruce up your picnic with small romantic touches: go for a chequered red and white tablecloth, make sandwiches yourself or surprise her with a bottle of wine in a cooler bag. It’s the little details that will show her how much you really care.

Go where the fun is

A great way to entertain your date is to take her to a fun-filled place. Street performers, from toss jugglers to musicians and mimes, are great fun to watch and don’t cost a cent. You’ll often find them in public spaces, parks and shopping malls. And if you live close to a fairground, why not rock her heart on the bumpy cars or take her on a ride round the Ferris wheel?

Teach her something new

You’ll definitely strike a chord if you teach a woman something she’s always wanted to do – teach her to surf, throw a kick, juggle or even change a wheel. Ask her, it’s as simple as that. It’s likely to be something she’s seen in you and is attracted to. You can be sure she’ll remember from day one and perhaps even forever.

This article was written by MrRight.com.au, Australia’s only online dating service inspired by women. Visit MrRight.com.au today for fun, love or friendship, or visit the Mr Right Blog for more dating tips.

A Great Date And He Was Cute, Too

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Sometimes a great date isn’t about the guy. Not to say that this is always the case, because it isn’t- I love a cute guy just as much as the next girl. But I can appreciate a great date even if they guy isn’t my type.  Take for example this date I went on just last week. It was amazing and I think it would have been great with anyone, but as an added bonus he was adorable. All I can say is that I keep waiting for the phone to ring again.

He picked me up and was actually on time which is always a plus. Then we went out to the new Italian restaurant for dinner. I had some of the best spaghetti that I have eaten and their garlic bread was to die for. As dinner was wrapping up I suggested that we split a dessert, but he said that he had something else planned for after so we didn’t. He paid the bill and we left.

Then he took me down to the park. It wasn’t that late and there were tons of people out enjoying the beautiful night, so it wasn’t creepy at all. He built a fire in this little fire pit and pulled all the makings for smores out of a bag that he had brought along. We just sat there roasting marshmallows and talking. The melted chocolate-y goodness of that delicious dessert was just what I needed. I probably ate way more than I should have and was a little embarrassed when we easily ate the entire bag of marshmallows.  Then he took me home and said goodbye.

I know that smores sound a little unconventional on a date, but if he can plan that for a first date, I can’t wait to see what he comes up with for the second.

The Antidote To Valentine’s Day

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If you’re still paying for Christmas then you’ll be overjoyed to be reminded that Valentine’s Day is almost here. And that marketing event ain’t cheap neither, the average American spends $160 on gifts for their partners and family, not a whole lot less than Christmas.

You could try to do things on the cheap, yeah, right, if you fancy being single on the fifteenth! However, you could do things that will keep the costs down by stealth, making a card yourself rather than sending an overprices tacky missive from a high street stationer says that you’re thinking of her; baking a cake instead of buying one off the supermarket shelf says you like to do things for him.

You can dip your own strawberries in melted chocolate, that often leads to other things and it’s cheaper than a huge box of chocolates that you present her with only to be accused of “trying to make her fat.”

How about taking care of business yourself with a home vajazzling kit? That’s an awesome surprise and much cheaper than getting it done professionally.

If you’re single at the moment then you’re probably sick of it all before it’s even begun, going out this weekend is going to be a chore with all those smug couples staring longingly into one another’s eyes, smooch induced nausea! So, if you don’t feel you’d be responsible for your own actions out on the streets then how about holding your own anti-Valentines day party? Make it themed and it could be a scream.

How about a Gangsters and Molls themed cocktail party? Or invite a few of your single crew over and have a night of slasher movies and beer? You could invite everyone over and indulge in a bit of speed hating. Speed dating’s been done to death, speed hating involves getting together and having a really good moan about your job, the government, taxes, you get it, just rag on everything that’s getting you ripping for a few hours.

If you’re a single girl and you’re not looking to get tied down then how about treating yourself to a day of mani pedis and massage? Get a facial and a new ‘do. Do it for yourself sister!

If you’re a single guy you might like a mani pedi and massage but how about sending a card to your dear old mum, tell her how much you appreciate her and that you love her dearly. She might think you’ve flipped but it’s good to tell her every now and again, no matter how old you’re getting.

Another thing a guy might do is send flowers to one of his single lady friends. I don’t mean all creepy weird stalkery but just a few flowers (Not a single red rose!) to some-one who might appreciate the thought right about now. And you never know, she might have a sister…

Dan Cash will be sobbing bitter tears as he microwaves his romantic ready meal for one on Valentine’s Day.