Dating During a Divorce – Pros and Cons

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Can I date while going through a divorce?

One of the first questions that people want an answer to when getting divorced is whether or not they can date while going through a divorce. The answer to this question is not easy. There are many factors that are going to impact whether dating during a divorce is appropriate or not.

When You Have Children

If you are dealing with both children and divorce then dating during the divorce process may or may not be appropriate. The first thing that you have to look at is how much time you have available. Your kids are going to need more of your time during the divorce, you still need to keep up with your work responsibilities and you will have extra responsibilities related to finding a new place to live and getting your single life set up. Most people going through a divorce and who also have kids just don’t have the time to date.

Another issue you will want to look at is your pre-divorce situation. If you go from sharing a home with your spouse directly to the divorce process then dating during this process is most likely a bad idea. You need time to transition between married person and divorced person. On the other hand, if you have been separated for a while and already have separate lives established then dating during the divorce process is possible.

The final issue relates to how you want to be viewed during the divorce process. Some marriages have pre-nuptial agreements that can penalize you for having extra-marital affairs. While these terms may not apply to relationships that occur after a separation, it is generally a good idea to avoid dating in these cases until the divorce has been finalized.

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When You Don’t Have Children

When you don’t have children the issue of dating during a divorce is slightly more simple. Since you do not have to worry about how your kids will respond to a new relationship and since you do not have to worry about spending enough time with your kids, dating is more of a possibility. However, you still need to think about your situation before jumping back into the dating pool.

Again you will want to look at how dating fits into your schedule and life during a divorce. A divorce is stressful even when you don’t have children together. Legal proceedings not only take your time and resources, but they also can have an impact on your personality.

If you have been separated for a while and you have the time and resources to date then it is up to you whether you want to date or not before your divorce is finalized. You may find that some people are not interested in dating someone going through a divorce, while others will not care as long as you are in the process of getting divorced. The final deciding factor will be your eagerness to date. If you are ready to date then by all means date, but do not rush the process.

Conclusion

Dating during a divorce can complicate things during an already complicated period of your life. Generally it is better to wait until your divorce is finalized before you start looking for romance. However, some divorces take months if not years to finalize. If you have established your new life already and are in the process of getting divorced, and if you have the time and resources to search for love, then this is a call that only you can make.

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The Basics of Body Language

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The Basics of Body Language

Body language is one of the most important parts of your communication, according to some of the most recent studies more than 50% of your communication is expressed via the body and only 8 % from what you are saying. For that reason, if you really want to attract women, you will have to make sure that you know how to use the body language properly. If you are really looking to find out what the basics of body language are, I would like to point out some of the main ones:

  1. First of all, make sure you smile when you talk; especially if that is the first time you meet someone. That is the best way to make someone special feel more comfortable, you will have a better chance of making her want to date you again.
  2. Make sure that you maintain eye contact during about 70% of time when you are talking with a woman. This means you need to look at her face when she is talking with you. Make sure that you avoid looking at her chest.
  3. Another very important thing that you will have to take care of when you are talking with a woman is having upright posture. If you see some of the pictures of some of the most famous actors in Hollywood you will notice that all of them have very good upright posture, so make sure that you try to look like them. If you have good upright posture, women will think of you as healthy and really good looking.
  4. Make gestures with open palms, because that is very important to show that all the things you are saying have some meaning and also will make others feel more comfortable around you. Gestures are very important as they give more meaning to all the things that you are saying and also it will show women, with whom you are dating that you are more confident in all the things that you say.

Those 4 main things are the main part of the body language communication, but keep in mind that if you are really looking to have a better dating experience, you will have to spend more time learning the essentials of body language. Furthermore, the guide “GuyGetsGirl” is one of the best guides available on the market and I can assure you that there you will find a lot of information how to do things right when you are dating.

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Secrets To Attracting Hot, Younger Women Part I

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Secrets To Attracting Hot, Younger Women Part I

“Is he really interested me, or he’s just playing a game…the same way he does to other women?”

This is the line of thought that should run through a girl’s mind each time you’re flirting with her. It raises her level of desire to keep pushing things to the next level.

When she’s dealing a guy who sparks those kinds of thoughts in her mind, she’ll feel challenged to “perform” well, act in the sexiest way possible, just to get the complete approval she think she deserves.

The key, though, is to NEVER give 100% approval and confirmation that you have “feelings” for her. I’ll explain:

When a girl is interested in you, she’ll exhaust all means in order to discover if you feel the same way for her. This is because she feels that getting a guy to like her so bad is some sort of “success”.

You can actually drive women crazy, by never showing that you like them. This way, she’ll be challenged to keep working and working to gain your affection and attention.

This is the main reason why you should NEVER confess to a woman how badly you are attracted her, or admit how desperate you are to be her boyfriend (in fact, don’t be desperate at all). Stop cheesy lines and avoid insinuating that you two are “perfect” for each other.

I know that those things above sound romantic to guys, but in truth, hot women are usually turned off with them. I suggest  that you stop watching mushy Hollywood films and get back to the real world.

In movies, a geek introverted guy can attract the most popular hot girl in school…all because of him making a sudden romantic admission of his feelings. But it only happens in movies (rarely in real life).

In the real world, making a grand confession and admission of your “feelings” during the flirting/early-dating stage will be seen by the girl as a weakness in your personality.

Ninety percent of the time, admitting your feelings won’t urge the hot girl to tell you that she loves you too. In fact, she might get turned off! Chances are, she will begin to see you as a typical guy who can’t control his feelings and is desperately in love with her. For some reason, there’s no more challenge attached to you anymore, because she feels she’s already “won”.

Continued Tomorrow…