College Girls: Don’t Fall for a Player!

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When you are in college, you are probably faced with the decision to date someone. Dating is something that can be pretty hard. Once you’ve met someone that you like though, it can be very easy to get caught up in the moment and want to be with someone for the long haul. He might be perfect in every way, he knows what to say, what to wear, and you want him all to yourself. But, you need to be wary of a guy like that, how do you know that he isn’t just a player, looking to “get some”? Sure, it might a damper on your romantic thoughts, but you don’t want to be crushed by a guy because he is a player. Here are some signs that the guy you might be crushing on is a player.

  1. He has a lot of girl friends. It’s fine for a guy to have girls that are friends. Don’t you have guy friends? But, when he’s got so many girl friends that they seem to completely overshadow your relationship with him, you need to take a step back and evaluate.
  2. He’s different with his friends. Sure, everyone acts differently when they are with their friends, but if your guy is completely opposite, you need to understand why.
  3. He’s very cocky. It’s fine for a guy to be comfortable with who he is, but many players are extremely confident, it’s sign he’s a player.
  4. He doesn’t ask you about your life. Many players don’t seem to care about anyone other than themselves. If your guy isn’t asking about you, but is more interested in making out―you’ve got a problem.

  5. He texts you at all hours of the night. Sure, it might be cute to get a morning text from him, but if you are getting texts at 3 or 4 in the morning, chances are he’s out doing something. Ask him why he needs to text you at those crazy hours in the night.

If the guy that you like has these qualities, drop him like he’s hot! It’s better to get out of a relationship now rather than “waiting it out”. It’s only going to break your heart when he decides that he’s on to something new. Arm yourself with this knowledge and find a guy that isn’t a player and is a great guy.

 

About the Author
Neltje Anny is a writer for MyCollegesandCareers.com. My Colleges and Careers is a great site for you if you are interested in getting enrolled in one of the many online MBA programs.

 

The Perfect Blind Date – How To Plan For Success

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So many people are very cautious about going on a blind date. Maybe it is because of how dangerous the world can be or maybe people are just too scared to live a little. Some people think that some people only go on blind dates because they are unattractive or cannot get a date otherwise.

If you do not know what a blind date is, it is a date where either party is unaware of what the person looks like and they do not know another about the other person. Sometimes you might not even know what the persons name is if they used fake names online or something. This could have been setup in multiple ways. Some which include dating agencies or by friend or family members.

There are many locations you can choose to have a blind date. Most often it would be setup as a dinner date because it is mostly all about getting to know the person in a setting where there is not much distraction and it is not dark so you can see one another.

You could go on a date completely blind however it would be best if the two people have at least spoken on the phone or maybe messaged each other online. This is fairly important so you can at least get all the dumb questions out of the way first and you have an idea of what this person likes. This is when you would want to agree on the place to go and find out what type of food the person likes so you can agree on a venue that both seem to like. You could arrange the meeting time or maybe even pick her up for the date. It is never a good idea to show up late on a blind date. The person is going to immediately feel like they were stood up. While you were talking to them the first time it would have been a good idea to come to an agreement that you would are both going to dress semi-casual so that you can still dress nice but not too flashy as to out do the other person. Dress well enough to impress but not too formal. No one wants to be seen with a slob…unless you are a slob of course.

When you finally do meet you should greet each other. I think a hug is appropriate however, just a light hug, and pay her some nice compliment. If you decided to pick her up in your vehicle you can still give her a light hug but do hold the door for her. Give her a compliment after you get in the car. Chivalry is not dead! Of course some women do not like men holding doors but 90% of the time it is a good idea to do it and find out. Ask questions about each other and let her go first. Be sure to listen at the same time and don’t forget to let yourself laugh and have fun. Fun and laughter are the key ingredients to having a perfect date. Two people can really hit it off even though they just met.

Ending the date can be tricky sometimes. You never want to overstep your boundaries however if you have a good time and seemed to click then you should offer her a ride home, tell her how much fun you had on the way and then walk her to her door. It’s not hard to tel if you should go for that goodnight kiss.

If you follow these steps then you will have a good time and hopefully he or she will want to see you again on another date. Maybe a movie this time in a darker setting! Good luck!

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What Are The Popular Jewish Dating Sites?

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In today’s generation, we are living in the world of believing that there are women who looks in a way that is worth dating. Women feel that they are inadequate if they cannot be able to match themselves to the beauty of magazines and billboards. Thus, men also feel inadequate if they do not get these women. Here comes dating. This is one way of knowing one another and finding potential partner in life.

In this article, you will be able to know different executive Jewish dating sites that are commonly visited by people in the internet. You can take advantage into its free membership and you can evaluate how the site is being useful for you. When you have found your partner, then you are most likely to invite her into a date and start knowing one another.

  1. JSingles – This is a popular Jewish dating site that people visited the most. In this site, you will notice that it does not have huge number of members but it is affordable. You can easily budget the cost. If you are living in a Jewish area, then you should find more personal ads. As being said that it is cost-effective dating site, JSingles has a lot of search tools compared to other site. These tools are more advanced and authentic. It will help you to easily find your partner that matches your preference.
  2. JDate – JDate.com is considered the largest Jewish dating site. In here, you can find more than thousands of people – singles, youth, middle aged, and adult. You can meet different types of personality that matches your likes. Furthermore, with lots of people looking for a date, you can also get information on various events, adventure, and news about single people. In your $40, you can get a membership that cost not too expensive compared to other site. However, you will not be able to find dating site with lots of singles of Jewish faith.

  3. Jewish Friend Finder – this site is also one of the largest dating sites of most Jews. The best thing about this site is that, it has many exciting features that the other sites do not have. You can send emails, instant messages, and you can set your own blogs in this site. You can also see, upload, and download videos of your own. There are many applications that even your phone can get it.

So, visit these sites now and find your date!

Online Dating Overview – General Dating Advice

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Every aspect of human life typically evolves at some point and the realm of dating is no different. We have seen many things change when it comes to dating. The world of social media and the age of internet have changed the means by which we have to reach a different mass of people than we typically could. What this does is open an entirely new and exciting set of possibilities for what you are looking for or what you can find. This adds many beneficial abilities to the ones who may have suffered in other forms of dating for one way or another. Some traits are less important and some flaws less noticeable when everything is done via email, or IM.

That’s not to say that this new era hasn’t come with its own set of obstacles. This onslaught of social media has brought forth its own depression: the “Social Media Depression.” This is brought on typically by the days and days of no profile traffic or perhaps a low friend count. The key to remember is everyone is different and that’s a fact of life. Believe me, you should have no envy because someone has more virtual friends than you; there are many things to be envious for, but this just simply isn’t one. The advantages of online dating however are far greater than the disadvantages as long as you set your expectations at a correct level. What we are here to help provide whether its general dating advice or something more deeper that you need.

Many people have asked me, how do I succeed at online dating? The answer to this question is very similar to the one of general dating. Woman still find the same things attractive as do men. The way you deliver these things has changed, however. Instead having a great line prepared when at the club, all the introductions are provided by your user profile. This basically sums up all of your good points, and maybe the bad ones, and puts it into an easy to determine sample. The key to online dating is properly managing the opportunity of your profile.

Your profile can be your single greatest strength or weakness, if you so choose it to be. This is the first thing that someone sees when they view you in the listings. Some people just throw a profile together to get one on the site. This often leads to absolute failure in an online dating community. The way to think about it is if you were car shopping and seen nothing but busted up cars, would you begin to look deeper? The answer is more than likely not. Potential daters are no different. If they don’t like what they see on the profile they are not likely to take you serious or dig deeper. This is why the profile is so important. It is your single greatest chance to make a unique impression to someone and scream “I AM who you are looking for.”

The first thing you should begin to ponder when creating an online dating profile is what you are looking for in a person. Do want something long or short term? What’s more important to you: physical or emotional traits? Which traits within those categories are most important to you and why? What are things that your potential match must have before you could be fully satisfied in the selection you made? Write these things down as these will be the most important things when building your profile. After this, begin to work on your own traits. What makes you unique, your hobbies, or your own character should all be deciding factors of what your side of the profile will appear as.

Many people make the mistake of adding too many personal describing adjectives such as I’m very outgoing, I’m very understanding, and I’m down to earth. While these may be great, over using them will appear as if you are trying to sell yourself on words alone and not actual character. Someone can say they are down to earth, but what makes them that way? This is the challenge of creating a profile that will grab a reader’s attention and hold it firm. To do this, you must prioritize your greatest traits and spin them into a form that is going to grasp attention. So, instead of just describing yourself with these adjectives, list things and situations that make you a very outgoing or very understanding person. The general concept is to spot things you must avoid while dating online and stay away,

Another common mistake people make is during the listing of hobbies. The key is you want to set yourself apart from others. Do this by viewing your competition and doing some research. If you’re 24 and you find that almost all 24 year old women like to ride four-wheelers, it generally isn’t a good idea to make that your highlight hobby. You will appear as if you are just like every else in your “group.” After you have done your research, think of things that you enjoy doing that may be more interesting than what the competition is selling. For example a girl that is very into playing Xbox online I find as unique in her particular category. While not everyone sees that as unique, I find it very intriguing for the simple fact that through the life of online dating, I find very few females who openly put that out as a hobby and promote it.

Photo selection in the online dating community is a lot more critical than what most people consider it. One of the most common questions asked from my female counterparts is “Why do I only attract scum or perverts?” Yet when I view their profile photo, it seems as an open invitation to these types of people. In general even if you have it to show off, do not put so much cleavage in your photo as if to say “Insert pervert card here!” You want to appear generally happy and full of energy while remaining professional. The way you carry yourself in a photo says heaps about whom you are and what is important to you. A professional photo says that you are accomplished as a person and you care about yourself and your future.

Once you have your profile, how do you increase traffic to it? One of the easiest ways is simply playing the numbers game. Send out a message to every single person that matches your criteria in a person. The more people you reach out to the odds of getting traffic back is much higher. Look at it this way: when launching a marketing campaign, is a firm going to target only a few people? No, they are going to target as many as they can and only if a portion come to the surface they still win because of the large group they targeted. When you do get messages try your best to respond as this will increase your overall visibility on the site and make you seem much more like an active member in the community. Sometimes it is ok to venture outside of what you are interested in for the simple fact that everyone stumbles when writing an online profile. The person you are messaging is no different; maybe they have greater qualities they just couldn’t put into words for their profile.

As with any new goal you try to tackle, ensure yourself that you are setting reasonable expectations. Never create a profile and expect in the first week to go on 3 dates; it just doesn’t happen that way. What your expectations are of online dating will greatly dictate whether you succeed or fail. If your expectations are in the mediocre range then you are much more likely to see the results you want in a given time frame. If you set your goals to high however more than likely it will take them longer to develop, therefore leading you to become more and more frustrated when it doesn’t happen fast. We are a nation of wanting immediate results and it’s evident in everyday life and marketing campaigns. Do not let this kind of mindset drift over into your mindset of online dating. Keep in mind that this is a marathon and not a sprint. Set reasonable expectations and stay dedicated to what you decided on as it will benefit you greatly in the long run.

After you have established what you feel to believe a sound profile and correct expectations if you are still not getting any traffic, it may be time to either revaluate your traffic methods or your profile in general. Perhaps you can try different things to get traffic to your profile but if still no success, it is time to dig deeper into your profile. At some point you will most likely have to reevaluate your expectations and perhaps change them. For instance, if the one thing I have to have in a potential dater is a very modest attitude but simply no one in the community has one, maybe I need to adjust that some to better meet what is in the community. Never be afraid to change what you expect out of something simply due to the fact that your mindset changes, typically, on a daily basis. Now, I’m not saying change your profile every day. You should give what you have enough time to develop and attract people. If you don’t, you will find yourself in a never ending cycle of trying to recreate a profile when you don’t even know what the starting products potential was because you didn’t let it develop.

Even though online dating presents many new and unique challenges it can still be a great experience for someone who hasn’t attempted it yet. Online dating isn’t for everyone. Some people still prefer to do it the old fashion way and there is nothing wrong with that. If you are struggling, focus on your profile and how it looks to someone who may be interested in you. When you do these things effectively, it can increase your chances of success exponentially.

Call the Nanny, It’s Time to Start Dating Again

Call the Nanny, It’s Time to Start Dating Again

Dating is hard at any age. When you’re a teen, it’s awkward and uncomfortable; when you’re in college, it might too often consist of loud parties, overindulging and regrets; and when you’re an adult, it often feels desperate and hopeless. Many single parents are reluctant to reenter the world of dating. Single parents must be sure they feel emotionally ready before they begin looking for ways to squeeze dating into an already packed schedule. With a little pep talk and some smart strategies, single parents might be pleasantly surprised at what they find when they call the nanny in to finally get out and start dating again.

Give Yourself a Pep Talk

You might be feeling a little insecure about yourself, given the negative feelings no doubt lingering after your previous relationship. Remind yourself of all the good qualities that make you a great parent as well as a great person. Make a list of all the reasons anyone would be lucky to have you, and believe them. Speak positively to yourself, and avoid put-downs and other negative self-talk. The best way to attract a confident and likeable date is to exhibit these traits yourself.

Spill the Beans Immediately

When you find someone you would like to date, be honest and up-front about your children. Best to avoid gushing or spending the entire date talking about them, but make sure your date knows that you have kids and that you are crazy about them. As the relationship progresses, you can begin to let him or her know more about your precious offspring, if he turns out worthy to share your most precious assets with.

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Be Honest with the Kids

Avoid lying to your children about the dates you are going on. However, don’t give them every detail. Tell your kids you are feeling lonely and want to meet new people and that it’s important to spend time with your adult friends every once in a while. Do not introduce your kids to any date unless you are certain it will be a lasting relationship. They don’t need the emotional roller coaster that finding a good romantic relationship can be.

When things get serious and you have found yourself a keeper, gradually introduce your special friend into your children’s lives by inviting him or her on an outing you’d all enjoy or to your home for a pizza party. Keep it gradual and slow, inviting him or her more often over time. It may be hard, especially if you are crazy about your new found love, but it’s best if your kids get to know how fabulous your new friend is slowly. It’s a shock to them when you suddenly have a new companion with you all the time.

Getting out into the dating world means you’ll need more help with the kids than you did before. If you don’t have friends or family to help, finding good people to fill nanny jobs is the next step. Find the right nanny for your needs at NannyJobs.org.

Dating in a Foreign Country

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Traveling abroad is a unique opportunity to get completely immersed in an entirely new culture.  You have the chance to learn about history, taste traditional foods and beverages, explore city landmarks, and possibly practice a second language.  Why not share this amazing experience with a stud muffin from the area?

Dating abroad can be refreshing and incredibly fun!  That being said, many people are skeptical of foreign flirtation, so I’ve created the following convincing argument:

Why date abroad?

1.  Because the men in your city just aren’t cutting it.  Surrounded by elderly gents?  Military men?  Gangsters?  Move it or lose it, sister!  Get out of town and explore what else the world has to offer.  There are nearly 7 billion people on this planet.  The problem is they’re not all conveniently located within a 60-mile radius.  That would be absolutely terrifying.  Time to set your sights on a new land and a new man!
2.  Visit a foreign city’s hidden gems.  Blend in with the locals at the best pubs, restaurants, stores, and city hot spots that tourists don’t know about.  Yes, you’re probably using your date to be hipster cool in a foreign city, but he’s probably using you to look popular…sooo whatever.
3.  Opportunity to learn and practice a foreign language.  Si, oui, da…that’s what you’ll say when the cute guy asks you out.  In all honesty, dating someone who speaks in a foreign tongue can be the best way to learn a new language.  You pick up on vocabulary quickly, and you begin to perfect the accent.  One of the perks: If you mess up, you don’t get reprimanded; you get kissed.
4.  Learn from the movie thriller Taken.  Without a doubt, there are dangerous, manipulative men everywhere, and they target innocent, female tourists.  Don’t be naïve.  It’s incredibly important to be hyper aware of your surroundings.  Avoid travelling places alone and always let a friend know where you’ll be going.  It is probably a smart idea to meet in a crowded place for your first dinner date.  Good luck.
5.  What’s the worst that could happen?  Chances are you’re in this new place for a limited amount of time.  If you somehow manage to make a disaster out of your date, you can avoid run-ins with the guy for a very, very long time.  Takes a lot of the pressure off!
6.  Great storytelling!  Your friends back home will undoubtedly want juicy details from your travels.  They will absolutely love hearing about your date, and you will enjoy re-living the romance, humor, or drama.
7.  Dating is a great way to meet people anywhere.  No matter the place, you can always enjoy time spent with someone new, interesting, and exciting.  Every date teaches you something—about the place, the person, and/or yourself!
Convinced?  I sure hope so!  Start planning your next adventure abroad and be open-minded about the foreign dating game. You might fall in love with the place or the man…or both.  You can definitely find reasonable flights on travel sights, such as Travelocity.com.  Don’t forget to use a promo code for Travelocity to save!

Erin Prickett is a dating enthusiast and an experienced traveler.  She spent a summer in Mexico and four months exploring several parts of Europe.  Prickett recommends that you use a promo code for Travelocity to save on your next romantic adventure.