Five Tips for a Successful Date

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You’ll experience a great number of dates in your lifetime, though, no matter how long you’ve been dating, you can always use some pointers. It’s always important to be yourself on a date, but sometimes we can get so caught up in our nerves, we forget the basics. Here are some useful tips to help increase your odds of a successful date.

1) Don’t say the “Ex” word: bringing up an ex in any conversation makes for an uncomfortable, awkward moment. It’s best not to mention the past, whether you’re speaking of them in a positive, or negative light, it gives the wrong impression. Talking up your ex can give your date the impression you haven’t moved on, expressing disgust or anger towards them is altogether inappropriate, and something your date is not at all interested in hearing. Stick with talk about friends and family, or otherwise “neutral” parties that don’t relate to any of your former romantic relationships, ex wife, ex boyfriend or otherwise.

2) Dress appropriately: this seems like a no-brainer, but many times it’s easy to not dress correctly for the occasion or venue. This is particularly important for those going on the third or fourth date, as you are more likely to become more comfortable, you might stop trying so hard and begin to under dress. Consider the vibe and atmosphere of the meeting point: is it expensive? Is it contemporary? Is it a lounge, restaurant, bar? Is it for lunch, or dinner? First impressions are always important, but keep the same effort going through out every date, as a rule.

3) Don’t keep them waiting: this goes for women and men. There is no such thing as being “fashionably late”, and no bigger turn off than waiting in a crowed restaurant for your date. Although you may be sure to be punctual on the first date, you should always be on time for every date, no matter how comfortable you are becoming with the person. We all understand there is traffic, but over compensate and arrive early to be sure you show respect to your date.

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4) Turn off your phone: the image of a nightmare date often goes along with the individual talking on their phone constantly, ignoring the date completely, this is well known. However, some may think that texting, tweeting, facebooking or checking their fantasy football scores is not equally rude. Staring down at your phone itself is rude, whether you’re bored and checking the time, or telling your friend how amazing your date is. Don’t come off as being inaccessible, keep your phone out of site during dates.

5) Choose a relaxed venue: first dates can be stressful, especially if it’s a blind date and you don’t know what your date’s tastes may be. If you are having trouble choosing a venue for your date, consider a relaxed atmosphere that will help you avoid awkward silences, such as a lounge with live music, or take off the pressure by having a lunch date.

Written by Holly Adams from couponcroc.co.uk, one of the largest discount voucher websites for romantic travel deals.

How to Win More Friends and Influence People – Dating Tips

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Ever noticed the ‘natural leaders’ and decision makers at the office? What’s their common denominator? Simple. Their level of self-confidence is quite high.

People with a high level of confidence are often referred to as the ‘Alphas’ (derived from the alpha male behavior of male dominant animals in herds). These alpha personalities generally attract a lot of attention from the opposite sex. Females are instinctively attracted to alphas because of their dominant behavior in important aspects such as decision making and being natural leaders.

Another way of putting it is that these alphas have developed their self-esteem to a point where their aura and happiness output is very influential to others. Their self-assurance makes them natural magnets for other singles, especially those seeking life partners.

In truth, there is nothing really scientific or biological in building up your own self-confidence. As the saying goes, it’s all in the mind. You can build up your self-esteem by simply believing in your own abilities, no matter how big or small or even limited. Just because you’re a carpenter doesn’t mean you can’t have as much confidence as a business executive. Building cabinets and houses is a whole different ball game from sitting at a desk in front of a PC all day.

Study and analyse the good qualities of famous or successful people and you will see that, like you, they had to start from scratch in terms of character building. But, once they got rolling, nothing in the world could stop them. Use this as your inspiration and launching pad.

One method that always works is to dress right and dress for success. Everyone looks up to people who dress right because dressing well exudes confidence. Present yourself with dignity and confidence and soon you will see that the people around you will respond in kind. Show yourself as a positive individual who knows what direction to take in life, especially at work.

If you are not sure about your wardrobe, ask advice from a fashion guru (better for you if he or she is your friend) or from successful family and friends. Let their success and dress code rub off on you.

And while you are developing your wardrobe and building up your confidence, you can start searching for other singles online, the online dating scene is a terrific outlet to a huge pool of single people where you can practice exuding your improved confidence level.

Regardless you prefer to take your love hunt offline or online the same principles apply, success in meeting new people comes down to self image and self confidence and only you have the power to make it happen. So get out there and start being proactive.

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Matt Fuller is a contributing writer for various dating sites in Australia. Matt has been working within the online dating and matchmaking sector for ten years and is pleased to share this article.

How To Woo And Seduce A Woman

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How to seduce a woman? It can be quite a challenge, considering women are complicated creatures. However, by following the right steps (and paying close attention to her responses), you won’t have to rely on good looks alone to interest the female gender. Though it helps!

The first thing you must have is confidence. If you cannot see your attractive traits, why would she? Women like confident men who are unafraid and can deal with rejection. It is a common belief that women are attracted to “bad boys” over good guys, but this is not completely true. Women are attracted to the confidence most of those bad boys exude.

Next, talk with her. Appeal to her intellect while helping her enjoy the conversation, as well. Making a woman laugh is key to seduction. However, do not insult her, or anything she enjoys or defends. This will be an instant turn-off. Find out what she is interested in, and try to steer the conversation towards that.

Another crucial step is complimenting her. Every woman enjoys being complimented, but be sincere in your compliments. If you are phony or false in any of your compliments, she will know, and will not respond well. Find something unique about her, and tell her how much you love it. It could be her eyes, her hair, her lips, or pretty much anything. She will see you are being sincere, and she will be flattered and feel appreciated.

Physical contact is also important. Just holding her hand or placing your hand on the small of her back will trigger her passion. When done correctly, physically touching a woman lets her know you’re interested in her for more than a casual friendship.
It does not take anything learn how to seduce a woman. Just follow the guidelines stated above, and you will have appealed to both her mind and body.

Online Dating Won’t Do’s

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Some people expect online dating to be so amazingly surprising. This is where disappointment has often become a product of unreasonable expectations. Well, if you expect online dating to answer all your problems, you surely will be disappointed.

So here are some of things that you shouldn’t expect online dating to do for you:

  1. Alter your bad dating experiences

If you have this habit of dating people who are bad and inappropriate for you, most likely, you’ll find them on the Internet too. Well, the best thing to do is to beat that pattern. Self development, self help and therapy, healing, whatever it is that you’ll need to choose your own method, go ahead! Changing the way you meet people is not in itself perfect to effect psychological changes in you or even the truth behind your previous dating pattern. Simple as how do you know if you have plateau effect, your bad dating experiences needs its own data why. Break out from it by doing new and more personal development.

  1. Be a better person

Don’t expect the mere act of dating online to give you that confidence you’ve always desired. Allow you to be your real self for the first time. Help you get over personal problems you may have. Self improvement is a process and meeting, dating and socializing with different people. Dating needs its own fitness regime. Allow you to meet more people around and learn from them. You’ll need to work on these separately together with you working on your dating experiences.

  1. Lie for long

It’s easier to lie online than in the real world. Unless you’re content and okay speaking to people online that you’ll need to meet your date sooner or later and all those little lies will come out and maybe disappoint you more. Well, they always do! If you’re shorter, older, heavier or, well, more married than you’d been claiming to be, people will find out and they will get angry, scared and even ridicule you.

Three Myths About Astrology and Compatibility

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Astrology is most sought-after for insights into compatibility than any other topic. Unfortunately this is also where it is most misunderstood. Common misconceptions about astrology involve sun sign compatibility, the fate of relationships and the concept of “soul mate.”  Doing away with these myths will save you from much confusion and disillusionment when studying astrology.

Your sun sign tells you which sign you are compatible with.

False. There are only twelve sun signs roughly the same as the twelve months of the year. With so many people born in the same sign, it is impossible for that one sign to describe them all to any depth. Sun signs are types of people, not individuals. So your sun sign alone can describe your relationship needs and capabilities only in a very general way.

To really find compatibility between two persons, you will need the exact date, place and time of birth of each party. This information is then used to draw up an astrological birth chart of each person. A single birth chart has hundreds of influences to it. An astrology compatibility report by an astrologer compares and weighs all these factors before compatibility can be determined.

Compatibility means two people stay together while incompatibility makes them break up.

Not always. Human nature and motivation are far too complex to be predicted by astrology birth chart compatibility alone. While a horoscope compatibility chart can show problem areas in a relationship, they cannot predict with certainty if a couple will stay together or break up. You could be in a totally mismatched relationship  and stay in it, due to social factors, personal beliefs and so on.

In fact, it is not unfair to say that astrology is not here to judge if two people ought to be together or not. People marry for their own reasons, not according to a set standard. Therefore compatibility has a very subjective meaning for them. All that modern astrology can now tell us about compatibility is how two people get along, not whether they should marry or not.

Astrology can help you find your soul mate.

False. There is no reference anywhere of what a soul mate is or if it exists. Even if you have one, nothing guarantees they are in the same lifetime as you are in now. Astrology – real astrology – does not promise the meeting of the soul mate. In addition there is no such thing as a perfectly compatible couple.  All relationships have their share of negative and positive influences.  The notion of a perfect soul mate relationship is hard to imagine in astrological terms.