I remember a time when this guy was interested in me. He was doing everything he could to make sure I noticed that he was in to me, and I was doing everything I could to make sure he didn’t know I was interested in him too. Of course soon he gave up on me and found someone else. That’s a mistake I never made again!
If you are single and looking then you probably don’t want to ruin your chances with someone who is interested in you – especially if you are interested in them back. By avoiding doing all the wrong things that drive them away, you will naturally do all the right things that keep them attracted to you, so here are the top 5 ways to kill someone’s interest in you.
1. Pretending You Are Not Interested in Them
Many people are advised to play this game with someone that is interested in them. It’s supposed to be a way to make them even more interested in you – kind of like a cat and mouse situation where they have to chase you. For the most part it doesn’t work.
Normally the person doing the ‘chasing’ becomes unsure of whether or not the ‘chasee’ is really interested in them. Soon the fear of rejection causes them to lose interest in the chase and move onto someone else. And even if they are not scared of you rejecting them, they will probably just grow tired of your coy attitude with them and give up.
2. Trying to Make Them Jealous
This is another game that many people are advised to play. It’s supposed to make the person attracted to you grow even more attracted to you due to jealousy. It’s a dangerous game, and instead of winning at the game, most of the time your admirer will quickly grow angry that you chose someone else instead of them. This will cause them to move on to someone who actually shows interest in them, and them only.
3. Showing Your Mean Side
If your admirer is attracted to you it’s probably because of one or more admirable traits. But nothing can overshadow those traits like a fit of rage and anger can.
Not many people will be attracted to you because you are mean or cold in nature. Even a glimpse of that side of you may be enough to turn someone off, so remember to always show your best side out in public – and try to always live your best side. You will be happier and you will keep your admirers around!
A person can only listen to so much complaining from someone before they completely cut that person off from their ‘I’m attracted to this person’ list. Complaining makes you look crabby, unreasonable, and difficult to deal with. Who would want to get into a relationship with someone like that?
To thwart complaining start taking action! Don’t waste time complaining but instead fix the issues that would cause you to complain in the first place. It’s much more admirable. Plus you will gain attraction by your admirer if you are a go-doer who gets things done.
5. Criticizing Them The Wrong Way
Chances are the person interested in you is involved in your life some way. If you are interacting on a conversational level then you want to make sure that you don’t bruise their ego in some way or make them feel as though you believe you are superior to them.
If you point the finger at someone and tell them they are doing something wrong in a negative way then you will instantly lose their respect and gain their annoyance. You may think that you are being helpful when you tell them how to do something, but you may actually cause them to think that you are telling them that they are wrong and you are right. Anyone attracted to you will be turned off immediately!
Of course there are times that they will be doing something wrong and you may need to direct them in a different direction. Instead of pointing the finger or blaming them in a direct way, use the indirect method with constructive criticism. This means giving them positive feedback followed by constructive criticism.
For instance, if you are critiquing an office memo they wrote then you may want say something like ‘You really know what you are doing when it comes to getting your point across!’ followed by constructive criticism such as ‘maybe you can point out even more great things about not eating other people’s lunches.’ This sounds a lot better than saying ‘You need to add more detail to that list!’
While these are the top 5 ways to kill someone’s interest in you, there are many ways to lose the interest of an admirer. Remember that keeping their interest boils down to being the real you, letting them see you in a positive light, and making them feel as though you value them. Remember those tips and your admirers will always admirer you.
About The Author:
Bellaisa writes for the Relationship Circle, a blog with relationship advice on everything from common relationship issues to how to find love.
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