Single people often complain about not finding enough quality men or women on the planet. You can just imagine how single parents must be feeling. Single parents often have all sorts of fears and hang-ups — bad experience with the ex, age and weight issues, awkwardness in intimate situations, feeling overwhelmed with motherhood/fatherhood.
If you are guilty of these self-sabotaging thoughts, it’s about time you changed your mantra if you hope to attract good people and situations to you. These nagging fears can become a chip on your shoulder, or as some call it, emotional baggage — a real turn off for potential dates. So, toss your fears into the garbage bin, dust off your low self-esteem, and get into the dating scene.
But where do you start? First, you may want to enlist the help of cyberspace. There are a lot of single people on the Internet looking for love. Joining social networking and dating sites are just some of the ways you can meet new people. Social platforms such as Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, even YouTube have become an integral way of life, almost second nature for modern singles – just ask any young single guy or girl!
Mobile dating sites are also turning to be a popular vehicle among the lovelorn to find their soul mates. You may also join online communities or support groups for singles. The idea is to market yourself (not really as bad as it sounds) on the Web as a single, attractive male or female looking for fun romance or a committed relationship.
Don’t limit yourself to the web and mobile dating avenues, however, also make yourself available in the real world. Who knows, the next person you will swap “I dos” with is just two blocks away from where you are now. Join clubs, attend parties and group dates, try to get to know as many people as you can.
No matter how lonely or desperate you get in finding someone to share your life (and household bills) with, don’t neglect your kids. Don’t miss school activities or events just so you can be with your date. It would be better to discuss these boundaries with your date from the get-go.
With all the psychos prowling around, make sure your date will not be a threat to your child’s safety before you take him home. Try to get to know him or her first in a public situation, and only bring your date home with you after he/she has passed this initial stage.
As the two of you become more involved with each other, your date might also want to develop a closer relationship with your kids. Gradually ease your date into your family by letting him or her join family-oriented activities. A person who is comfortable around your kids definitely earns more brownie points.
Hi, and thanks for stopping by our single parent dating article. About the author. Matt Fuller works within various free dating sites and singles chat platforms providing matchmaking alternatives for singles who know how to have fun.
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