The Reason Why I Began Dating Younger Women
Most mature single guys are looking girls who are attractive, sexy, and YOUNGER. If you’re one of those men, here’s what you should always keep in mind: Women LIKE guys are who are considerably older than them.
In the past two centuries, the American government managed to take statistics of married couples in this country. A close look at the statistical trends on marriages in the United States during the last 200 years suggests that men have a wide age gap with the women they marry. That’s correct — woman prefer older guys…it’s a timeless classic. The underlying reason behind this can be understood by studying evolution.
Women are psychologically inclined to search for security, safety, and other things in between. She does so because it’s embedded in her DNA and human nature to provide an environment conducive to raising a child. An older man can provide security and safety because of his rich personal experiences, well developed personal skills, and knowledge of the real world.
Social norms usually project men as desperate and hopeless romantics, who must do all they can to get a life partner as soon as possible. That may be true in some cases, but in majority of cases, young women are deeply inclined to seek out older guys.
The next thing that you should keep in mind is this:
If you devote yourself to learning art of pickup and dating, in approximately two years or less, you will be a skilled pro in dating women and enjoy a fulfilled sex life than you ever thought possible.
Do you know that the typical guy only gets involved sexually with an average of 4 to 7 women in his entire lifespan? The media and social norms don’t accept this picture, it’s true according to statistics.
This means that it doesn’t matter how old you are, or even if you’re fifty-year-old virgin. If you have the courage and decision to overcome your personal fears, change your mindset, learn new ideas, and take firm action…your life will change and you will have more fulfillment with women.
What you should do is to start the learning process IMMEDIATELY, and dump all the excuses you might be making up in your head right now.
The next few months will be an opportunity for you to practice new practical dating techniques, and it will be a remarkable experience. It is never too late to make a change. If you’ve failed a thousand times with women in the past, there is still plenty of time to start from scratch and revolutionize your dating skills.
Always think and believe that you are not desperate. Lose the idea that you’re "running out of time". The sooner you get rid of that thought, the sooner you’ll experience success with women.
Being anxious and desperate only makes you appear cheap. Acting as if you NEED a girlfriend right now is an attitude that will turn off most women.
Techniques To Start With
1. Project A Youthful Image
The way you project your age is what counts the most, not the actual number of your years. By projecting a youtful image, I mean you should be happy, see the lighter side of things, and enjoy life to the fullest. Consider loosening up and possibly get back to wearing your jeans again. (Not a bad idea).
I suggest that you go to a clothing store this week and buy a new pair of jeans this week. Lots of older guys keep wearing old, worn-out jeans, and they’re signal to the entire world how old and outdated the are.
Take an honest, close scrutiny at your hairstyle, appearance, and wardrobe. consider updating your style a little bit.
If you’re enjoying life, having fun, and projecting a carefree attitude, younger women are bound to notice you. Balance your proper mindset with an updated wardrobe and appearance and you can be really successful in dating younger women.
2. Be Fun loving
I often give advice to mature guys are too serious with themselves.
Imagine there are four hot women in a club. they’re relaxing, enjoying themselves, and taking some time off to unwind. The suddenly a guy enters the scene and starts talking about serious topics like politics, literature, work related issues..etc. Do you think those girls will like it? Of course not. It doesn’t fit in the situation!
Women expect older guys to be mature, but there is certainly a proper time and place to get serious. For this reason, when you’re out with a hot younger woman, loosen up and act relaxed, calm, and always on the lighter side.
The laidback, relaxed energy you project is the type of "atmosphere" that attracts women when you interact with them.
If you think loosening up and having fun when conversing with a woman is difficult, I suggest that you take an honest look at yourself and your personal issues.
Having a reality that is full of work, serious stuff, and no time for play can truly take its toll on your ability to enjoy life. Problem is, this affects your ability to land a long term relationship with an attractive woman. As the song goes, "Girls just want to have fun". So if they can’t have fun with you, they’ll choose someone else to have fun with.
More often, serious guys are the ones who love watching serious films and TV shows. They are primarily interested in politics, intellectually stimulating documentaries, and even appreciate music from many centuries ago.
A good idea would be to balance your intellectual appetite with films and TV shows which bring out the lighter side in you. Watch movies that are simple, funny, and relaxing. Appreciate TV shows with good clean fun, and learn to make way for humor in your personality.
If you only read Time magazine or stock market magazines, try adding some entertaining readings to your collection. Listen to some music that are "cool" and recently popular.
Being "updated" gives you a string of initial topics to use when conversing with women. I did not say that you should totally screw all that stuff about politics, stock market, work, books, etc…but you can save it for later, when you’re already intimate with a woman.
For the meantime, while you’re still dating and flirting, stick to easier topics and fun conversations.
This also gives you fun conversational topics to talk to women about. That hot 25-year-old babe at the bar might know a surprising amount about politics, but that doesn’t mean she wants to talk about it when she’s unwinding with a few drinks.
Practice and incorporate a cheerful, fun loving attitude into your personality.
Try it first on your friends. When you’re talking them, try to stay clear from any topics that are too serious. Get into the habit of inserting cool humor in your conversations, and it will naturally come out when you’re out with women you particularly like.
3. Be Outgoing!
As men age, their social connections dwindle down. College buddies start to marry and start a family. Other social connections tend to be busy with work and all that stuff.
Perhaps you’re one of those people who just moved in to a new town and you haven’t developed new acquaintances yet. Or maybe you just don’t lie going out anymore, feeling like a fossil to hang around in local bars like before.
This is common sense, but I feel the need to say it: You should definitely go out once again.
Start by wrapping your socializing efforts with a hobby that you love to do.
A good idea is to start attending personal development events and recreational activities in your area. If you have already sunk to being shy and introverted, shake yourself up and get a renewed confidence. Talk to two or more people each day and engage in fun, fulfilling and meaningful conversations. This will help you strike a friendly chord with new friends.
Staying in your shell won’t do you good. better get out there.
Issues Related To Age:
Do you find your age embarrassing, and feel the need to lie about it?
Of course, it is best to tell the truth. However, you are not obliged to reveal your age to a woman when you meet her.
A woman will press you early on for information regarding age, educational background, line of work..etc., but as I said, you are in no obligation to reveal all that in the early stages of meeting her
Stimulate her curiosity, by not telling it all to her at once. Instead, reveal yourself gradually, as time progresses. This way, she will always look forward to hanging with you again, because she always learns something new about you that she has never been aware of before.
Most guys make a stupid mistake by bragging about all their accomplishments, stating all their achievements, and showing the girl how important he is in society. It just won’t work. Doing that will leave the girl with no excitement to talk to you again.
Let women ask the personal questions. Then answer in such a way that you will escalate the suspense, making her want to know more.